Scared that Im going to end up like some of the people above me, who "gave it one more year" and suddenly are late 30s, unmarried, look way older than they are, and are not truly happy.

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I'm 34, single female. I don't worry about it. You don't worry about it as much after a certain age. Honestly, the grass on the other side looks miserable. I'm an ambivert, so have a great social life with friends, but also like time to myself. I do whatever I want with my time, without having to worry about my kids or hubby. I'm hot and cool, so still get my share of men...just make your life fulfilling to you. If getting married is really a priority, work on making that happen.

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Just get married before entering consulting, and then you can sleep in hotels instead of dealing with crying babies during the week

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Hallar atcha PwC1

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This post is depressing AF

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Def seen it happen - probably harder on single women.

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I'm 32, 5 years into consulting, and constantly freaked out about it... I gotta gtfo soon.

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OP you are the only one who controls this happening. I feel super sorry for all the young women I see that are talking about freezing their eggs for after they make partner. I don't want to be 60 when my kid finally leaves for college.

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How about mating up with other 30 something consultants?

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Maybe, D1. I guess my attitude is: don't stress about it; you'll come off as desperate and unattractive. Just go with the flow. You'll meet someone when you are meant to. The difference for me is that I have female friends who are in their late 30s through early 60s who are single. One role model is a successful Managing Director in her early 50s, never been married, and she's always with her friends and family. She's the loveliest person. Another aunt, around the same age, is close with family, but not with friends. Other older single friends are divorced or were in long term relationships. Some have kids, some don't. None of us are "alone." The only friend I've spoken to about her is 39, divorced, no kids; and that's because she doesn't have any family and wonders what will happen If she gets sick. But for me, I have close family members, and friends are like family to me. Also, there are non-profit organizations where younger people are matched with older people to visit. The truth is, our generation is going to have more people who are single, never been married. Us smart, educated, successful women are probably most likely to be - so you can do 2 things: embrace it and be patient or be aggressive, read books on dating, get coaching, sign up for matchmaking, etc. there's not a second I regret being a smart successful woman. The men I date love women like us and I want to be part of a power couple.

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They're in the wrong profession. If you're unhappy, you are too.

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I certainly have seen it with more women. I have cousin that this happened to. Last real bf was when she was around 30. Put career first and I know she regrets it now. At the time I am sure it made sense for her.

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Omg... So true

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I dunno - will going into industry REALLY find you a SO faster or at all?

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@pwc1 love your attitude! Sometimes I get freaked out as I'm 27 and single but you're right. Everyone is on a different path and as long as you're fulfilled with your life, that's what matters 😊

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PWC 1 is right for now. If you continue down that path too long, you're life is gone and you die alone and sad

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I personally have found books helpful to understand the male perspective when dating.

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I'm glad they help. Treat men how you would like to be treated and things should work. If they don't, he's not the right guy for you.

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I think I'm going down that riute

You don't need to read a book on dating or have a coach (aren't we coaches?) to find a partner in life. You sound like an intelligent person who is overthinking it.

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