"See??? It's not just women (points to me/only woman) who have to worry about what to wear!!" - senior telling the team he wasn't wearing a tie, only a jacket, to a meeting.
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I don't know why this bothered me. Perhaps it's because I just smiled and left it alone instead of saying something. Perhaps it's because I realized I've become complacent to this kind of talk about me being a woman with "woman problems." I don't know.
Anyone have thoughts on this? Or good quips for when this inevitably happens again?

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That would bother me. Its like.. hard to say something because he probably said it lightheartedly. I would say something like "But not all women do?" Or "Think it might be just you haha"

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Yes! It was definitely alienating and generalizing. I don't usually have issues with what to wear to work. I have full confidence in my ability to dress the part. I have a work wardrobe that has yet to fail me (except for some static cling one time with a new skirt...) And I usually look sharp as hell.
I am not only the only woman usually, but I'm also the youngest by at least 15 years, so I feel like their opinions on women are extremely outdated.

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Where’s our Partner 1? She’d have a great quip for this!

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This would have bothered me as well. I think I would have said something like: "Yeah, it must be so hard... Taking a tie on or off." (With an eye roll)

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This situation deserves a raised eyebrow and just enough prolonged eye contact for them to realise what a stupid thing they just said.

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