Seeing a therapist and taking some meds (Straterra-non stimulant) to try and treat my ADHD and forgetfulness. It’s been super difficult because I’ve done well in school, but I can’t seem to excel at work because I feel like I suck at meetings/ verbalizing my thoughts / understanding what was discussed / or forgetting key details. Does anybody have tips on how to handle this? I think what gets me is that this feels like a personality trait that I can’t fix, and it’s causing me to feel depressed.

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1) this is not anything to do with your personality, character, dedication, etc. fundamentally, this is a dopamine management thing

2) your executive function is uncontrollably flipping the channel in your mind of what you’re thinking about/paying attention to, to some other thing that grabbed a little of your interest, and boom, your off in another world thinking about the new idea, and everything you’re intending to focus on fades away, until (if you’re lucky) you snap back to your intended focus, who knows how much time later, trying to pick up the pieces of what you missed, trying to get back on top of the conversation, even though you just missed some important details, so you may ask a question that’s already been answered, and you certainly won’t have a good memory of the information shared. PS, the channel will flip again shortly. And when it does, and the new idea takes your focus, you’ll forget the thing that you really needed to remember

3) To manage this cognitive nightmare, I know that my brain is the last thing in the world anyone should ever trust to remember anything. Ever. I take as many notes as I can all the time. My notes app is my brain. My calendar is my brain. I record any meetings as people are comfortable. Basically I use technology as an artificial brain, since mine struggles

Your brain situation is not all bad. There are also superpowers that come along with the challenges, but it takes some training to learn how to use them intentionally

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Would like to follow because I definitely feel like I’ve noticed a decline in my verbal communication skills, attention, and memory. It’s probably related to aging, lack of sleep, and damage done over the years from other lifestyle choices.

As SC1 stated, write EVERYTHING down!

It may take a while and a few jobs to find what works for you. Not a reflection on your intelligence or capabilities, but many work environments are terrible for ADHD people.

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