Seems like the tolerance for having babies home during the work day is getting less now that it’s been a year and vaccines are here. Is everyone ready to go back to traditional childcare arrangements?

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Everyone has their own levels of risk tolerance. Personally, I’ve sent my kids back to full time In person school since august. They needed that for their learning and I needed it for my sanity / ability to do my job. That being said, my 8 year old did get Covid from school (it didn’t spread to any of us), but we were willing to take that risk when we signed them up for school. No one should be “judging” what we do or don’t do with childcare given everyone’s at home health situation is different, but performance may be affected if the person isn’t able to effectively still do their job (albeit over flexible hours).

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That’s the thing - a lot of parents weren’t able to effectively do their job during 2020 due to having babies at home but we were squarely in a pandemic so everyone was understanding. Now with the growing divide between parents sending kids back versus keeping kids home and lower infection rates, I wonder what will happen. Will employers crack down or deal with another year of less than optimal productivity from some parents?

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I think tolerance for kids home will remain (i.e., working off hours, kids showing up on video calls). But the tolerance for not getting your work done is about over at this point. Meaning, fine, no judgment if you choose to keep kids home rather than go back to school or daycare, but now people expect you to figure it out between non-traditional hours, balancing with spouse or other family members, or a nanny. Or going on a FWA/part time schedule. My oldest (7) just started hybrid school this month, so people know I am often distracted helping her with school, but I still get my work done in off hours. My youngest is back in daycare/preschool, but it’s a super safe careful environment and I feel good about the risk level. I have lots of coworkers with a lot of varying childcare challenges. But I think it takes a special team to truly be supportive of the challenges. Agree with others that a lot of people are over it at this point.

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Kids' vaccines aren't here. I didn't keep them home for a year only to put them in daycare again and pick up covid. Hard no from me!

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So provocative question-but why are we assuming that SA1 is not being responsive at work? We don’t know if she has a spouse with flexibility or really independent, self-managing kids. Just because that circumstance would make us less responsive doesn’t mean that is her situation

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My son has been in daycare throughout the pandemic (except 2 weeks in late March / early April 2020 with initial mandatory shut down). It’s fine. I can’t imagine not having daycare, for the both of us. I can see that being the case (or at least having a nanny at home to help out)

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I think the tolerance will continue to decrease in roles like ours were people know that you can generally afford a child care solution. We personally have been at daycare this entire time as there is just literally no way for us to do our jobs without it. My husband and I are both in client services. We have been crazy strict with Covid protocols, not visiting any family for the last year, with the exception of our one-year-old going to daycare. It’s just an absolute necessity. Quitting our jobs and not working isn’t an option. We accept risk where we have to unlimited otherwise. It’s been the best option for us.

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Same here. It was a risk we took to protect everyone’s mental state and not get fired which would cause an even worse mental state. But to each their own!

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I agree with PwC2. As the weeks/months go by, the tolerance for kids at home is going to be less and less. My kids are in hybrid school, but as school shifts to every day and then eventually full-time in the next few months, they will be in school. If daycare is a concern, then a nanny is an alternative. Everyone knows that you can’t work effectively at home without childcare.

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The vaccine is experimental until 2024. My friend just died mysteriously the next day after the vaccine. There is no way I will be taking it or giving it to my baby. No childcare unless it is my mom who lives 5 mins away.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. Myself, my mother, my FIL all been fine since vaccination. My husband does not want to do it.

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I won’t belabor the points above, but one more option is a nanny share if you have friends/coworkers with kids in your area. You can easily make sure they are all vaccinated, but not bear the full financial effect. Some people have the nanny split time at each parent’s house to cut down on general noise and logistics burdens as well. Make sure you draft a good contract.

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Thank you- I’m super pumped!!!

Yes. I can’t wait until traditional childcare arrangements return. Its the only thing I pray for.

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When do you plan on sending yours back?

I think a year is plenty long enough to find an arrangement you are comfortable with. Have you explored a nanny with strict safety protocols or is your risk tolerance at 0%?

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I think if they’re just running/screaming by and a caregiver is going to take care of it after the 2 min it’s still cute as a lot of people are still at home. My son was home on Friday last week and screaming during my entire 5 min schpeal on a call and it was AWFUL for me and for everyone else. My husband was on duty at that time but was distracted by emails etc. and this was just a single day for me! What a miserable year all around 😔

We were back to traditional care in June 2020 (daycare for my littles) and September (in person school for my older). I personally was more stressed with them at home than I was about possible exposure so this was the right choice for us. Understanding some states still aren’t as open for full time school/daycare, if they are in your area and others you work with are sending their kids to school and becoming more productive, I’d think your team would expect the same of you. I had someone express to me that they thought another team member wasn’t productive as their kids were always on video in team meetings (this was recently, not at the beginning of the pandemic). It really depends on your situation - if you always work for the same team and they’re understanding and have no concerns about your work, it’s probably fine to keep them home. If you actually feel you need more flexibility or your work is suffering, then people can probably tell and that will show through in your rating. I personally have pretty low tolerance for people keeping their kids home since our state has been open most of the time. If I am paying for care for my 3 kids so I can do my job, you can do the same.

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My kid returned to full time daycare at 16 months old at Bright horizons. They have strict covid -19 screenings, protocols, and none of us have gotten sick yet. I get my second shot Friday and my husband gets his next week! But I’m in Texas and everyone here thinks we already beat covid 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Mine has been in childcare the entire time but its consistent 4 days daily. Small home based child care.

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I couldn’t possibly do my job with my son home. I’ve had him home for periods in quarantine and it was incredibly difficult because I’m not in a position to just get to things later. I have to be present when everyone else is working and I would be frustrated if I were in their shoes and someone else was never fully present or available because their kids are home. We’re not in the same place we were a year ago. There are childcare options that are less risky and alternatives can be made. It’s totally understandable that the understanding is waning at this point.

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I’ve had my LO at home with a full time nanny since March 2020 but planning to send him to daycare sometime this summer/ fall.

Mine started daycare twice a week back in June and my sister watches her the other 3 days of the workweek. But it's a smaller daycare, it's run by my neighbor, and everyone in it lives in our neighborhood so the trust level was pretty high since I knew everyone and they have really strict protocols in place. It also helps that our state has been fairly compliant with masks, so a distancing,, etc. Without the daycare, this last year would have been even worse for me.

Although I should add, baby at home would fine for wfh. Toddler who needs to constantly be in my business (which is what I have) makes trying to work at the same time a nightmare

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Mine went back June 2020

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