Should I cut off all my flames or ghost them?I just got into a relationship for the first time in a while and I have no plans to play games.I have about 5-6 girls that I've been seeing for months. Strictly hookups. I'm not going to be hitting them up but I feel like they can text/call at any given time.I feel like I'm not close to them enough to warrant closure.I cut it off with one but I had to do that.Not sure how I should approach this.Idk if I should wait for a text from them or be proactive

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Be proactive so your new girlfriend doesn’t see them text and go wtf.

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If you’re serious with this woman, be pro active. This doesn’t mean you need to be rude or nasty about it but inaction at this point has potential to harm the longevity of any monogamous relationship you might form especially if you continue to see these women at the same time even if it’s just for a short amount of time. I was in a similar position when I met my wife albeit with only one other woman, I was open about it and assured my wife that she was the one I wanted to make the effort with. That was 10 years ago now and I’m still thankful we had a solid foundation to build and grow our relationship on.

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I’d tell them you’re just starting what feels serious or could be, ask them not to text, wish them well.

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Just to add - leave on good terms if possible. You might want to rekindle those relationships down the road. You never know!

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Congrats on finding love. Text those girls and tell them (just make sure none of them are crazy).

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Yes close the doors and bolt them.

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Change your dp to a couple dp

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🧐how are you managing 5-6 at once?

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This is what they call a rotation.

Depends on your new girl. You could wait and see if any of them text you and then reply sorry I’m in a relationship now. I would be fine if I saw that text come in and that reply from my guy. I wouldn’t feel like “you were just leaving the door open” if you didn’t proactively message them. As long as when they text / call you reply straight away shutting it down I see no issue. But I’m not a jealous person in general so maybe other girls are different.

I think you can get away with ghosting if you don’t see a future with any of the girls, but yeah it’d be awkward if you’re out with your gf one night and they keep texting/calling. Maybe mute them so the notification doesn’t come up then text the next day or just ignore and they’ll get the picture

^^ that was my next thought haha, but really nice you want to be open and honest with her. You could say that you were seeing other people but are done with them since you started dating

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