Single fishes - did COVID intensify your desire for a partner or did it do the opposite and make you realize you’re OK by yourself?

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It made me realize I'm ok by myself. It's both comforting and scary because now I wonder if I'll ever be able to put up with another human again

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Yes I have an intense desire to make partner

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I realized some people didn’t make the cut to be in my life in any capacity, especially not during a pandemic.

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^um...no? That’s not what the original post was talking about either.

It has made me realize that I’m okay alone and that I need to work on myself for a while. I also realized that life is too short chasing people that don’t appreciate you. It’s times like these where you see who is checking in on you and who genuinely does not care.

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@director I’m sorry that you are going through things, I completely understand and am as well going through some pretty rough times. I’m also here for you if you need to vent or talk.

Before this, I was very happy being single - if romance or a boyfriend happens, it happens.

But damn I’m totally isolated and so lonely that it’s manifesting in wishing I had a partner. 😂 😭

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How about a fractional boyfriend? I got some free time. Me love you long time. ❤️

Single 4 life.

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Married but realized I’d be ok by myself. Does that count?

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I’m ok by myself, but I do miss my FWBs.

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*Raises hand*

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To be honest I was terrified at the beginning and lonely. But as time has gone on I have adjusted and I am actually happy spending time by myself and having me time. Surprisingly this has helped in that regard.

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It’s not that I now no longer want to find love but dating sucks, has sucked for a while now, and I’m kind of welcoming this time to just not date and not feel bad about not actively trying to meet someone.

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It’s made me feel ok to be alone. Breakup in February, approaching 32 . Luckily I’m surrounded by family now so I haven’t been lonely in that sense. But extra time to myself and abrupt self reflectance has made my realize what makes me happy (ranging from gardening to wanting a family) and ultimately what I want out of a partner. I feel like I’m going to be a lot more open about what I want and what I value when dating again. Singleness during corona has given me a stronger sense of self.

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I’m single and male in late 20s, and I live alone. Being isolated for prolonged time just makes me want to hang out with friends/family more. Work keeps my mind busy, and trying to date right now may create additional drama that I don’t need.

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Same boat here.

Intensify... online dating seems pointless right now though. I keep seeing articles and social posts claiming you can still online date during social distancing with video chats and phone calls, but my friends and I have not had any luck ourselves 🤷‍♀️

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What if they just offset each other? I made the decision to not meet new people during quarantine...can’t be sure if they were genuine or just bored 😂

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Made me realize I’m ok by myself as long as I have work or other activities as a social outlet. Sitting at home alone has made me “want” a partner but I realized it’s more for the company than the actual partnership. So maybe a roommate

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Depends on the day. Some days I feel great and independent other days a little lonely. Usually sparked by scrolling through social media

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Confirmed that I’m okay by myself but made me realize I have a lot more walls up & commitment issues than I realized before lol

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On the one hand, I'd like someone to cuddle with, etc.

On the other hand, some of these roommate/co habiting horror stories on FB are just that - horrifying, and make me appreciate my single ness.

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Made me be honest with myself about who would have my back. Now I am pre-dating with the intent to find someone worthy of the big commitment, rather than someone who piques my interest but ain’t shit under pressure

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Was already ok with myself, 😊

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Intensify. This isn’t linkedin so you’re not getting my pitch that ends in a happy ending. Intensified as fuuuuu.

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