Single women in STEM, do you have to field questions about being single during the holidays like I do? I'm 27, and every single Christmas my mother or grandmother ask me if I've "met any nice boys" and "when I'm planning to make time for a family." I get that they're coming from a good place, but I'd love for them to ask me about my work and how fulfilling that is instead. Tips for (kindly) getting family off your back?

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I am 26 and I have the same experience. I have been single for 2 years now and I am still enjoying my solitude. I just tell them I am still busy with work and saving up for my "future" family so we should all just relax and enjoy the holidays.

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I got it every year got married and the when you hanging kids started. Got divorced and they ask me when I will I get married again. Now it is like when you quit drinking wine at every dinner. That shut them down fast

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I get it every year. My mothers favorite is "well your sister settled down and she's perfectly happy so I don't see why you won't do the same." My sister and I are fraternal twins and I think it throws her off that we didn't both stick to the same life plan after college.

Respond to every question by talking about your career fulfillment or by taking shots at them

simply say that everything will happen at the right time!

You can let them know that you are not thinking about it for another 2 years or how many ever and will let them know when something comes up. Until then you are very happy about work and would love for them to ask about it instead of what's not your priority.

Most of the time we never give them a clear answer is why they keep bringing it up! Once you give them the same answer every year and tell them what makes you happy they back off especially when they love you so much.

I got married at 30, didn't have to answer a thing after my 27th birthday since that's when I told them what I had in my mind. Hope it works!

When I was 22 my grandma told me not to worry because 'there's still time' - at no point before this had I ever worried that I might be running out of time

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