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Lose the friend.
I’m not sure I’d go this far but I’d definitely stop going out to events with her. Opt for more solo time and fewer events. And if/when the virus mutates further and breakthrough cases rise, I would just tell her you’d rather keep in touch remotely until things have settled down due to her high ability to transmit.
The way you’re feeling isn’t unfair, but it sounds like you have seriously different views on the pandemic so she may respond poorly / think you’re being ridiculous. Don’t let it get to you!
Pro
I would let them know i wont be spending time with them until things have calmed down. I have a few friends who arent vaccinated and im just not seeing them right now
Pro
I think so too. One friend even got the vaccine so she could see me and my children (which of course gives me major guilt but im trying to not feel that way as i had only told her that i wasnt sure yet how i was handling unvaccinated friends yet and bam she made an appointment).
If not for my kids id probably see them with masks outside, which i may do as things improve
Offer to wear a mask with them. If they still refuse, seriously consider my friendship with them since they don’t seem to be a caring individual
I agree. It appears that consideration for others is very low.
The fallacy of asking unvaccinated people to wear a mask…they already proved they don’t care about protecting themselves/others 😅
Enthusiast
If you’re really bothered by your friends actions, you two may not be well suited for friendship - that’s a conclusion you’ll have to come to on your own.
I personally wouldn’t end a friendship over this.
Let me preface by saying I am vaccinated and pro-mask. However, this discrimination against the unvaccinated needs to stop. What kind of friend are you to write someone off or get so upset without understanding their POV? Vaccinated people are also getting sick and able to transmit as well (which is why I continue to mask). If she isn’t showing any symptoms and you are vaccinated, I’m not sure why you are so worried.
I don't think I would end the friendship but I probably wouldn't spend time with this person for now. The not wanting to get vaxxed is a personal choice (but I wish we'd all get vaxxed) but wearing a mask reduces the impact of that personal choice on others.
It would be one thing if the place didn't have rules but the fact they did have rules in place and this friend ignored them wouldn't sit well with me. Given the seriousness, and I'm also in a place where cases are surging, it's more of an integrity / character issue to me.
Rising Star
I wouldn’t end the friendship and I wouldn’t completely stop seeing this friend. I would however not go to events with this person. I’d likely only be okay with hikes or backyard hang outs. Both my husband and I have many antivax friends. Only one of which we’ve stopped being friends with and that’s because he is incapable of talking about anything else but the pandemic, vaccines, and ivermectin and it’s boring and exhausting at this point. For the other antivaxers we just see them in only very specific contexts - usually it’s just 1:1 or as couples, always outside, always social distanced. We haven’t even discussed this with most of them because we don’t want to get into it. We just shifted what we invited them to.
Rising Star
Yikes
End that friendship
Rising Star
I have a few friends like this. I’ll stay friends with them, even though we might not agree on this one point. I’m not going to lose a long friendship over this. But it’s up to you. Maybe you don’t go anywhere during Covid, for example.
Nag the friend. Remind them on all ways they don’t match up to your expectations. After all what are friends for!
Rising Star
*this seems to be a common problem since Biden & Fauci opened up the mask rules. They severely did not think through that immediately everyone would stop wearing a mask. Gross lapse in judgement.
Please mind your business. How does this really affect you? Let people make decisions about their life without judgement.
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