{ "media_type": "text", "post_content": "So, a boy is coming to visit me (we were introduced in an arranged marriage scenario) and I’m not sure what’s expected. We’ve texted for ~2 months and spoken on the phone a few times. Any advice? \n\nEven if it does / doesn’t work out I would like him to have a nice time, and ideally not sabotage myself.", "post_id": "610775b121988e0028d2f9a4", "reply_count": 12, "vote_count": 2, "bowl_id": "58f8108c753e990016608a0b", "bowl_name": "Desi Consultants" }

So, a boy is coming to visit me (we were introduced in an arranged marriage scenario) and I’m not sure what’s expected. We’ve texted for ~2 months and spoken on the phone a few times. Any advice? Even if it does / doesn’t work out I would like him to have a nice time, and ideally not sabotage myself.

Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Oh ‘boy’!😃😄 haha reminds me of this scene

Post Photo

Be yourself and give him a fair chance. People jump to conclusions, but everyone is different and maybe he takes a while to open up vs opens up super quickly. While meeting people, I realized people can have different personalities in person. Some people just are more talkative via text vs some aren't and would rather have a face to face conversation. Just try to enjoy the process and not feel the pressure. Good luck 😊


Glad I could help! :)

Just meet him like you meet any other friend. Spend a day or two together. Try to roam around, eat together, get some coffee together, go to bowling or indoor golfing etc. whatever works best for both of you. I don’t think that both of you need to take any special efforts. Just let the conversation unfold.


Hopefully he is a "man" if you're considering marriage. Like others said - just treat it like any other date but on steroids like your life depends on it... Kidding, but not really!


My friends approach to the process was treat every interaction like an Interview and constantly try to find problems. It ended up working for him! I’m going to approach you’re taking - texting / talking and the meeting up. I found that after getting to know someone, it is useful to get down to key questions: Where do you see yourself, do you want kids, are you going back to school, thoughts on the female working, what is the role of the female in the males house (I.e. how were you raised/ how do your parents handle work). I also asked the question: what concerns do you have about me For my in person meetings I’ve tried to have a couple food locations where we could sit and talk. I also created a site seeing tour I could take them on through my city. I used this to learn interests


Lol, good luck! While this approach may have worked in the past, any self respecting guy is going to withdraw his “application”. Like someone else said on this chain, just be a person. Talk and ask engaging open ended questions. See if there’s chemistry and basic alignment. Rest can be worked out

Arrey tum Kehna kya chahte ho…

Just be yourself and trust your instincts

When either of you bring up the question “why are you interested in getting married” or “what are you looking for”, don’t say “my parents want me to get married” or “it’s about time”. It’s a sure fire way to kill any and all “romance” in the moment. Be an adult with an EQ and you will be fine!

Good luck 😊

Additional Posts

Have an in-person interview with Slalom next week for a consultant position, I’ll be interviewed by 2 different consultants for 45 minutes each. Any tips from Slalom folks? Are these behavioral?


Everytime I ask my boss for a raise he tells me there is a freeze. How should I handle the situation?


How is CSX as a client at Nagarro?


FP&A or Corp Dev as exit opp?


Which tech companies are hiring full time remote during COVID?


Anybody else sick and tired of other team members forgetting procedures and disrupting workflow? 😤


Anyone have experience working with Umbrex? Found a UI/UX contract opportunity but wanting to know more about the firm as a whole (culture, typical client culture, etc.).


List on companies that hire remote workers: Not 100% of their roles are remote, but they have a whole bunch of options across the spectrum divisions.


Anyone willing to provide a referral for S& / Accenture / PWC / IQVIA healthcare? TIA!


Do MBB have IT M&A practices (DD +/ Implementation) What work they usually get?


Can anybody from LTI tell me how much time it takes to get Specialist promotion from Senior Software Engineer and what is the hike percentage given?


Desi ppl , struggling a bit with verbal communication since I moved to US. Sometimes can’t find words during client meeting so do a lot of ‘aaa’s , ‘Kind of’s and ‘sort of’. How can I improve it? I do watch English series a lot and read books but looking for other ideas that may have helped you all . Are there are classes which helps with fluency ?


Surprise bonus 🙈🙉🍷🙃😃Do I write a thank you note to the director / Partner who I know put in a good word ❗️❕❗️❕❓❔❕❓❓


Do you think differently about the way you look, or are you more aware how your face actually looks, since you’re seeing yourself on zoom so much? And are you like me, so self-conscious that you only look at yourself the whole zoom call?


How do you negotiate a raise?

What is the best credit card to get as a new associate with no credit or past credit card?


Need advice - when partner says create an agenda for the meeting with xyz client. I can't tell if he's asking for a deck or just a one-page bullet point of talking points? Thoughts?


How much is the base compensation for an enterprise architect specialist leader at Deloitte with more than 10 years of experience ?


Any insights into compensation details for a “Security Program Manager - Tech” at Uber with 7 YOE? TIA!


All right which MBB firm is helping Louis DeJoy upend USPS? 😅😬


New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
Download Fishbowl to see what others are saying
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here


Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site


Download the Fishbowl app

Get realtime notifications and see
what's happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or