SO broke up with me, said consulting has changed me for the worse #FlydayCryday

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Thanks A1...it probably has. There’s a finite amount of things I can think about/know about/care about, and lately it’s been more about Gantt charts and SPG points than books & people

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I got lucky I guess. My SO loves that I’m out of town 3-4 days a week. She loves being with me, and she loves alone time/space.

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D2 fair enough, but I think it is fair to say that getting your head out of “self-absorbed asshole” mode is harder in consulting than many other industries.

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I think you can make it work, I’m always amazed how easy it is for people to blame the industry, the firm, partners etc. it’s all your choice and nobody is forcing you to think about SPG points. You’d be at risk of having similar issues in another job. Figure out what your underlying challenges and issues are and address those, that’s much more important and valuable for the rest of your life. How you make your money is not that much of a factor. You can also be a janitor or teacher and a self-absorbed asshole 🤗

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M1 yeah there’s a reason why a lot of the partners in my office are estranged w/ their SOs at best. Been at this since 2015, probably don’t want to be doing it in 2019

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Not trying to be a dick, but you said it best. Consulting is not the best career if you’re trying to settle down. Good luck to you in the future

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Lol "gantt charts and spg points"

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Sorry to hear, OP. Happened to me a few years ago but it was for the good. Re-learn how to live all by yourself again and, most importantly, how to be happy on your own. You’ll eventually find someone (even someone who may share passion for SPG points) to add on top of your happy life.

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I’m in the D1 boat so it works out great

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It's not about her being selfish P1, she entered into a relationship with a different person when they met. You can't expect everyone to be okay with someone who's life has suddenly become completely about work

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BA OP. That is not a factually correct statement. It is not even a good generalization.

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Sorry to hear :( I could at some point see myself how consulting started to change my personality to something I didn’t like. That’s one of the many reasons why I recently called it quits...
hang in there - i hope you feel better soon !

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Sorry to hear OP but it’s better to find out now vs down the line. Your SO should support you in all things. My wife hates that I’m gone but totally understands it’s best for my career and I’m killing myself for the family. I In turn say yes to whatever she wants to do on the weekends and or vaca destinations. It’s give and take

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I'm so sorry to hear this, OP. You've just gotta find someone who is willing/don't mind/dare I say even likes your lifestyle. It can be rough, but with the right person, it can work.

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Find a more understanding SO that isn’t so selfish.

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Sorry to hear OP, lost my previous relationship because of travel. New so is way more supportive but so is pretty independent. Keep your chin up, delete Facebook and hit the gym. Plenty of other people out there to date

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Do you feel it has?

Also, sorry to hear :(

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