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So excited to be a first time mom, but scared to tell work. 15 weeks pregnant now. Who/how/when do you share the good news? Should I talk to HR first? Any stories or advice are greatly appreciated!

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I told my colleagues/bosses around 20 weeks with first and 16 weeks with second. HR really won’t want to hear from you until later on, but you can call your HR hotline to talk to someone about it on when to initiate the process (could be different for companies). Please just enjoy your excitement and don’t be scared about telling your work! You’ll know in your gut when the right time is (or can’t hide it anymore).

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Don’t worry! Find an advisor or mentor (or better yet if your career counselor is that person) first. Have them help you navigate HR and messaging. As long as they know, they can help advocate for you as you move forward in the process. I told my counselor when I was 6 weeks but haven’t yet shared with HR and I’m in 3rd trimester. I trust my counselor to keep me in line with what needs to be done. Congrats!!!!

I’m not saying they can keep anyone from holding biases but acting on them is different and in this specific case they are knowledgeable and it is their job to help you manage maternity leave and return to work.

Congrats! I haven’t told anyone yet (currently at the end of second trimester) because we are in midst of promotion / assessments

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