So happy a bowl exists for this! My wife struggles with anxiety and we have been TTC for ~8 months. I’m honestly not that worried based on my research but she is absolutely convinced that she is infertile and we will never have kids. How can I support her?

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Also, information is your friend. Find an RE and get an initial workup done for both of you. 8 months really isn’t that long when you consider each month your odds are only 15-20%. That said, if you’re over 30, they recommend seeing an RE after 6 months. There are so many ways to get pregnant now, chances are the RE will recommend a reasonable protocol for you (start with x, if that doesn’t work for y months, move on to z). No need to panic! Good luck!

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It's super common. I blame schools for setting the expectation that you will get pregnant right away after unprotected sex. No it doesn't work that way. Studies show that it takes a few months for most normal couples to conceive. You just gotta hit the right time and get lucky. Medicine is so advanced these days that there are a lot of ways to help. I know it's hard. I didn't expect this journey to be so long either and I'm only 30. It took me a bit to accept that I'm just not one of those lucky girls who get pregnant easily.

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Hey, if you are in nyc or sf, maybe suggest she checks out kindbody? I started my journey of “do i want to ever be a mom?” this year (32 and super single). I made an appt, they did an ultrasound + blood work to determine my egg count. Then explained my options and next steps. Something like that may give her peace of mind?

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It’s easier said than done to not worry! It’s easy to tell other people that it might take a while but when it comes to you, if you’re not pregnant fast you just naturally freak out. Very hard not to stress. As long as you don’t give up, you will get there. I’m in my first trimester now but was TTC since last summer with a miscarriage thrown in. I find that private TTC / pregnancy Facebook groups helped me a ton.

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