So I have a senior manager who makes sure that we are never alone together. We get a long great when I work on his projects but say we both have to take an elevator, he will find a way to go back to

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I think avoiding an elevator is pretty extreme. Men and women, married and single, attractive and ugly, ride the elevator together all the time.
When is the last time you showered ?

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I’d hesitate to assume there’s a gay component. Maybe the guy is indifferent to you being gay, but just doesn’t like you. It sounds harsh, but there are plenty of people in the office I avoid because I just plain don’t like them

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Is he the gay one or are you ? Either way, maybe he’s just avoiding temptation.

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He is married to a woman but that doesn’t mean he is straight for sure.

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Thanks PWC1, I just get a little paranoid sometimes because I had to leave my first job out of college because of being ostracized for being gay. Not a pleasant experience at all.

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Wow. You must be irresistible. He won’t be able to control himself on the elevator ride. But seriously, sounds very odd. Maybe he’s homophobic? Paranoid that you will accuse him of making a move on him? Plenty of straight people ride the elevator together with no problems. My guess is he’s homophobic and thinks you are some wicked sinner. How does he act generally toward you? Maybe he has said something to someone on the team and you could hint around to find out? That’s the passive aggressive approach I would use

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From the pictures in his office, he was definitely the pretty jock guy... back in the day. Not so much now and I would never hit on/sleep with/date anyone from my job even if I was still single.

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He's either (a) attracted to you and avoiding temptation, or (b) attracted to you and paranoid about sexual harassment in the workplace.

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His office or talk to someone to avoid riding with me. I am pretty much out to everyone on my team except him and another staff, but I’m sure they know. Not sure if it’s the SM having a problem or what. Was curious if anyone has dealt with that. And just to state all the info, I am married wear a ring and when ask about plans for the weekend, always say oh we are planning to go to [whatever event].

Just continue doing your job, n if you’re good at it, don’t even worry about the SM. Sounds like he’s homophobic ?

@OP- I feel like if it comes to that point again, just ask to switch teams.

If you get along great while working then I doubt he’s 100% homophobic. He’s either attracted to you or may be he’s the “just don’t hit on me” pretty jock type. 🤷‍♀️

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Lol I shower morning and night. It’s not that at all.

Honestly I believe 99% or heterosexual men are homophobic on some level. But as long as he doesn’t let it impact his judgment on your performance, I might let it slide. People aren’t perfect and change happens slowly. Sometimes you have to cut people slack while they get comfortable with a new idea. Like I said, it doesn’t sound like he’s being super offensive or prejudiced. He might just be weirded out. He’ll come around eventually.

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