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So I just received an offer from another company and would like to tell my boss that I’ve been unhappy and received another offer. Ideally I’d like to stay and see some changes but I’m not sure if that will happen. Thoughts? Advice?

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Ask for something that you’ve been wanting and that you can defend why you deserve. Raise. Change in working conditions. Something important to you. If and when they say no, then you can share you’re leaving. And that this was an opportunity to show how flexible they could be. If they say yes, well that might be an odd situation. But if they give you what you want, is that enough to stay?

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Thanks everyone for your feedback. I really appreciate it! Had a convo with my employer without mentioning that I have another offer. My employer got really nervous that I would quit and we developed an action plan for promotion and increased responsibility within 6 months in addition to being taught responsibilities that are not role specific to broaden my skill set. Hopefully I made the right decision by choosing to stay at my current employment agency and they follow through with their promises.

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I think this is something that you would need to take some time to think over. You wouldn't have begun the process of exploring other opportunities if you were happy in your current role. You may be expecting to see some changes in your current role/organization but that doesn't happen overnight. By informing your boss that you have an offer in hand, you may be jeopardizing your relationship with your current organization as now you may be seen as a flight risk.

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A bird in the hand (a new job you like) is better than two in the bush (a job that may not change or may promise to change but not ever really do so).

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It sounds as if you haven't written off your current role/org, so it's worth a conversation to explore what's possible. I would lead with observations about what could be improved (if possible, incorporate data) and some ideas or solutions that would help address the issues. All you can do is offer it up in good faith and see if there's room for growth and collaboration. If not, then you know your path forward. But I wouldn't lead with another offer if you're serious about wanting to stay. Keep that in your back pocket until you're sure. All the best!

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If you are going to tell your company you have an offer then quit. All you will do if you use the offer is create a bigger issue. If you want to inform your company that you have been unhappy and see if things change, then say that and leave the offer out. If they shrug it off or don’t give you what you are looking for then quit and start at your new company. Compare it to dating. Imagine if your SO came to you and said I’ve been unhappy for sometime so I went out on a bunch of dates and if you don’t change I’m going to go be with this other person. Even if you did change, it would not be out of good reason. And how could you trust that person? Wouldn’t you feel like they gave you an Ultimatum and leveraged some other relationship to make you do what they wanted? How long would that last? Take the job and quit or try and fix it.

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Exactly. Not to mention that when you need to get another offer to make your employer to notice and appreciate you, it’s a red flag about your employer.

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IMO, you have those conversations before or while you are looking and see if things change. If they don’t, you have your answer. If you’re a high performer they will likely give you a lot of fluff to stay, *hopefully* it changes, but if it doesn’t then you turned down a potentially good offer. I had those conversations 1.5 years before I left my last company and took my time finding the next “right” fit. (Been here 6 years) When I gave my notice all those things I had asked for/about over 1.5 years magically could have come to fruition and they begged me to stay. Sorry...not happening...know your worth and when it is time to walk away. (Or stay)

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Don’t tell your boss until you have offer in writing. Keep it upbeat about why your were looking, and ask for the changes you would like to see. Most times he changes will not come to fruition else they would have made them. Be wary of false promises.

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