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So I make twice the salary my bf does, and I seem to pay more (70%) in all the trips we do. Is this a serious problem?

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Yes. You should be paying 66.67%, not 70

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I pay for pretty much everything in my relationship. My SO works at a NFP, so makes about as much as my assistant. But he's cute, sweet, and does good in the world. I think I'll keep him. 😉

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No, it’s not a problem unless you’re resentful.

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Same here. He’s now my husband and we wouldn’t get to go on half the trips otherwise. I’d rather have his company and at the end of the day it’s only money.

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Not a problem in and of itself. It’s your money, do with it what you like.

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I do the same. Then again I think her job is a lot more important than mine. I make the money and she helps people. I’m glad to pay for a majority of our expenses.

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Speaking from experience as well, it can definitely becomes a problem if you aren’t communicating about it. Assuming your finances are still separate.

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Would your SO think it’s a problem? They may not recognize there’s even a minor issue

Speaking from experience here, it could become a problem down the road.

Do you think you should pay more because you earn more? Does he know you make double and does he realize you contribute 70 vs his 30? I mean... kinda common sense if you communicate.

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