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In general, as a M, I don’t think texting too much between dates is beneficial. If you had a good date, text her around noon the next day, tell her you had fun and you’d like to do it again, and ask if like Wednesday night would work for example. Women like assertiveness and it shows you mean business versus being a pen pal. You asking her out will not change the answer she has to the question, it just reveals the answer.
You’re much more likely to text yourself out of vs into a date
Agree with this as a F. Also something to think about if you are texting during the work week, small talk over text during the work day is super tedious.... throw in using slack, zoom, text messages and emails for work constantly, I will ignore my personal contacts that text me during work hours unless it's important and will get back to them in the evening. That's personally how I like to compartmentalize my time.
Speaking from experience, I don’t text back super fast unless the guy was like incredibly charming and I’m super floored which is rare lol. It doesn’t mean I’m not interested, but I’m not invested much yet. That’s usually where people are after a first low key date. So she may be interested but not invested yet.
Sorry… But you should just ask her out again and see if it goes somewhere. She’s still texting which means she may want a second. Only way to know is to ask. Also, if you’re not feeling it then let her know.
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ask her out on a medium-key date. If a date goes well for me , I would ask them out again usually a day or two after the date, and plan it so it's 2-5 days out. if she says she's busy, I suggest another time. if she says no again and makes no effort to suggest a date or time that works for her in both scenarios, I'd probably stop talking to her. and if she thinks asking her out again to a date again the day after a date is too pushy, she ain't the one for me but that's just what I do 😬. I wouldn't think too much about the hours to respond. people are busy, there isn't that much emotional investment yet, and even if they aren't "busy" sometimes people just need some alone time and reply to texts when they feel comfortable.
F advice: If you’re confused, set a date and step back from texting. You’re going to read into everything (literally) but if she says yes to a second date, you’ll have your answer. #analytics
She could just be busy.. or a bad texter, don’t read into the long text wait times yet.
If you like her, ask her out on a 2nd date, and if she says yes you’ll get your answer on her interest, simple.
Edit: Every date I’ve been on in Chicago though so far, the woman has in one way or another either made it clear, or explicitly said she wants to see me again. Just a datapoint for you though
F advice: if she is texting then she more than likely interested in seeing you again. Honestly ask for the next date it’s annoying when texting a guy and they take forever to ask to see you again - personally I wouldn’t be texting if I wasn’t interested and taking too long to initiate another date makes me lose interest if they can’t initiate/make plans - especially if I drop hints
2nd this... when you already don't know a person well texting runs out of steam very* quickly... if she wasn't interested she wouldn't text at all. Best way to get to know someone is in person in this instance. Texting is a waste for someone you don't know well. Just go out again. ... Also on the wait times, she has a job and life, she's probably doing something and when she's free, she texts back. (F advice)
Well, she's still texting you back. I don't think she'd text back if she isn't interested at all. How about try asking her for a second date?
I hate it, but a lot of girls on the younger side play this wait a long time to respond to texts game. Wouldn’t think too much of it
I would only keep pursuing her if she is at least an 8. Anything less I would move on. There are too many better options to be waiting for her. If you are decent than she will reach out after her next bad date.
She couldn’t be interested if she is taking a long time to respond
What's her occupation? She must be busy that's why it takes her hours to reply. Give it some time, OP.