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So I was hooking up with a guy—have only been on like 4 dates with him—and he turned off the lights before we started and I was like “oh you like the lights off?” and his response was “well I’m a gentleman”…wtf does this mean??

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He wants you to feel comfortable and not self conscious as he consumes you.

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Hell yea shove his head down there LOL

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Ask him?

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Yeah but I’m also asking here

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I wouldn't overthink it. He was probably horny, lacking blood to his brain, and thought it was a funny thing to say. Guys say a lot of dumb things in the moment.

As to what he meant, a lot of people are shy while hooking up for the first few times with someone new, so he probably meant something along those lines.

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I think there’s a decent chance he had a previous partner who was adamant about having the lights off bc they were self-conscious! I’m working on being more body positive, but I would have honestly appreciated that with someone I had just started seeing!

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did he grow up in a conservative culture where he feels shame for looking at t*tties

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Maybe he felt like he wanted to be romantic vs going porn.

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Mmmm I’d think he is either self conscious or doesn’t find you attractive. Not sure he would say either one though if they’re true. Way more likely to be the first one, too. But that’s where my head would go if someone said that to me

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Oh I usually say, no sweetie I worked hard for this body you’re gonna be looking at it!! 👍🏻👍🏻

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Hmm that’s interesting. What was your response to him?

OP, was it good??

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He’s probably uncomfortable with naked bodies, indicating he’s either super immature, is really conservative, or both. Could be nothing, but could be something

Interesting, now I’m wondering why lights are always suspiciously on when we have sex before bedtime...

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