So many posts about switching a job, but no one talking about the fears/anxiety it brings with it!

How do you guys deal with that? Specially if you have spent 9-10years at one place, and it's your first job change? How do you reassure yourself that it's going to BE OK?

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Following because I just accepted an offer after a long time at EY

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Totally agree - I’ve switched jobs twice in the past year. It’s an extremely anxious time and most people are only excited for you and don’t understand that anxiety.

It’s like a break up, only time will bring down the anxiety. Once you start your new job, your excitement will start to go back up.

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i just switched with very little qualms. the trick is to get so fed up with the last place that i knew whenever i was going next would be heaps better than my previous place.

8 yrs at acn

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15 yrs at ACN :(..I always think I have a plan but most of the times end up like a confused kid at an amusement park. The remote work set up and mediocre learning opportunities at project surely have fatigued me.

I feel like consulting is a great breeding ground for ramping up quickly and providing immediate value (jokes aside this is true). Felt the same during casing and real job experience.

I lost the fear of “can I do x,y,z job” because I was constantly put in a new client, problem, sometimes industry and the “toolkit” always worked out well: ask the right questions, structure the problem into solve-able pieces , ruthlessly prioritize and work more efficiently than peers.

I just switched and it was honestly pretty seamless, but I also made sure the role didn’t require 100 years of functional experience I didn’t have.

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Amazing responses all, helps all of us! In my case, my mind is cooking up all kinds of scenarios under the sun...

"Should I have picked my promotion in December and then moved? But that would be a bad deed given I am a veteran and such cheap shots aren't expected from me"

" What if there are layoffs in the new place? I have a very secure job here as I have spent 9 yrs"

"Is IT/Technology department safe from layoff in a core company? Example if the business ceases operations in few factories, the IT guys arent impacted right?"

"Moving to Europe from India is good, plus it's a pull from the new organization, not a push.l from me. They want me there to be part of the team. Why would one skip such an opportunity"

Etc.

+ if you're moving to a different industry. Basically making a lot of changes all of a sudden - change the COMPANY, the LOCATION (move out of country), even the INDUSTRY (from consulting to Industry). How do you deal with so much change without knowing what the future holds!?

Waiting for experienced leadership level people to guide and provide insights!! Thank you!!

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Don’t underestimate the time/effort it takes to rebuild a network and the relationships and personal credibility that goes along with that. That was a jolt at my last company change.

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But it’s also a fresh start to implement all the things you e learned over the years about working relationships. It takes time but after a year or so you should be back to where you were or at least in a good and trusted spot with colleagues.

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I read the book “the first 90 days” and it helped me to have a plan. As others have said, just sit back, meet people and take your time. After about a year, you get back to that spot. Yes it’s scary, but you’ve been successful for 9 years, you’ll be successful at the new place too!

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I left a 20 yr career in another field to join big K. It was tough, yet easy at the same time. A few points:

1. Remember why you’re making the switch and leaving the old company. Pay, wlb, people, etc.
2. Remember why you chose the new company.
3. Remind yourself that change is always scary, regardless of why. So when you’re feeling uneasy look at points one and two.

With that said, distraction is best until the new gig starts. Limit new experiences in your personal life until you start. That familiarity will help ground you.

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What ground you?

- exercise?
- journaling?
- yoga?
- meditation?

Remember your why and focus on that

Also maybe talk with a therapist or coach about your fears

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Find people at your new job that you can trust and lean on for firm culture advice. Took me 6 months or so to feel comfortable when I made a similar switch

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The vast majority of the people that leave don’t boomerang.

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I see a lot of this and I always remind people you have to remember if you were unhappy that leaving now is better than staying another day, month or year. No matter how long it is it’s always easier to cut the tie early than delay the inevitable.

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Not denying it’s super hard but I keep myself calm by saying change is the only constant..it may sound cliche but my thought process is like what if my partner and key folks in my network leave?what if I move to another project within my firm?
You gotta keep proving yourself time and again,the fear of failure is always there…people moving around happens a lot in consulting and moving to a different firm is not that different with the extra money as icing on the cake..hardest part was always the relationships but you will get to build it over time..

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In a nutshell, guys, I have already accepted an offer, from the largest company in a particular industry, who wants me to move to Europe from India, is giving a decent salary, relocation benefits etc.

But I ma moving from Consulting to Industry, moving locations as well, and this is my 1st job change after 10 years at a firm. I'm fearing about losing relationship, burning bridges, surviving in a new place, leaving my wider family back in India, establishing myself from sq 1 in the new organization etc etc.

That’s a lot of changes in a short span of time. As they say never have more than one life changing event in the same year…I did and regretted a lot…had a baby, bought a house and changed the job.
Looking back….make sure you talk it out with your spouse and family, set expectations, join local physical and virtual groups at the new place who are in the same boat as you. And as others have pointed exercise, meditate and go easy on yourself

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