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So my boyfriend just asked me to move in with him, come to find he wants me to pay rent.. 😳 so bogus on his part --- he owns his apartment, that will be a hell to the no.com why are men so selfish??!

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If the tables were turned, would you want to establish a situation by which your BF had no stake in the situation financially? If not, then you should probably have a discussion with your BF about values.
That said, I'm a dude and would likely pay, but you should either get your own room or only pay 1/2 of market rate for a similar size apartment
If you do get married one day, though, that money will belong to both of you if he doesn't squander it!

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You're being immature, OP. I'm a girl and would NOT get butthurt over this if it had happened to me. It's extremely common for one partner to pay "rent" to the partner that owns the property. Adding another person to the household increases cost of living, frequency of maintenance, and provides a boundary that you are equal contributors to your lifestyle. My brother owns a condo and when his BF moved in with him, he started paying rent from day 1.

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So you're saying you want your boyfriend to pay all your rent and utilities? Not sure I see your logic of why this is so absurd.

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For the boyfriend's sake please drop him, so he may find a better girlfriend

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Paying rent establishes mutual responsibility and gives you rights if relationship goes south

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It's fair if he pays a mortgage

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Seeing posts like this and people using the phrase "hell to the no.com" makes me happier than ever I found my gf.

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Maybe he's trying to make sure you're not using him for his money, which, based on this post, seems like a smart move on his part.

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Why do you get to live for free?

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Lmao oh my gosh. Please dump him so he can find someone better. Please.

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Did you just call yourself a cow? Your credibility is diminishing very quickly, with the start being no.com.

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You need a better boyfriend

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Sexist OP, not all men are selfish

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Ya'll realize he still has to pay taxes, maintenance and HOA fees right??

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You are not married. You should pay rent. Your post comes across incredibly entitled and high maintenance

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Maybe this is what a relationship partnership looks like. I think it's entirely fair to ask you to contribute and a bit telling if you feel entitled to pay nothing at all. You aren't married, why should you be getting the "milk" for free?

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He undoubtedly has out of pocket costs for RE taxes and utilities, and opportunity cost (arguably) if he chose to pay off his mortgage rather than deploy the cash in another way. You will benefit financially from living there provided that you pay less than what you do currently. I get it that you find the idea off putting, but I see both sides here.

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Well there's no ring on my finger it's been a year don't want him to continue getting the milk for free without buying the cow 💍

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What next? Pay your telephone bills? Pay your automobiles? I don't think you do, so you and him are through

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He owns his apt, it's paid for

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Oh then yeah ..doesn't make sense to me atleast. Split utilities . And especially if you travel why would you pay rent!

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I would split utilities and offer so much of myself and my time I deserve him to treat me better than that

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