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So my husband and I decided to go back to our original plan and starting to try for a baby next month. My daughter will be 18 months old and it’s been a struggle with work and her in general with covid and no daycare or outside help. I’m down to part time hours already with the intention of her hopefully being able to go to daycare in the summer or fall. I really want to complete my family but worry about not having help with two kids. Plus I dk how long it could take to get pregnant this time

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Everything you say sounds like it would be a lot of added stress and you would be at the receiving end. So rational decision would be to delay the second child. A family with a single child isn’t incomplete.

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That is too personal a decision. I cannot imagine life with one kid (we have two). It is definitely harder during the first year and a half (and you should think about what kind of support you can get - for example nanny vs. school), but then soon enough kids start playing with each other. I didn’t base my decision in the short term (or I would have never had another child), and I’m glad I didn’t. Also note- we didn’t succeed first time we tried for a second. We sadly lost our second early on in the pregnancy, but kept trying. I am really happy with that decision. Trust your instincts.

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IMHO, There's no good or bad time to have a kid. It's all about your attitude. I have 2 under 2 right now :) took us 7mo with the first Anna 1 mo with the second

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You can always find a sitter you trust to help once your newborn is a bit older (after 3 months, with pedi approval, etc). If you feel excited & ready, the rest tends to fall into place 💕

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By the time you try to conceive and then wait 40 weeks, daycare should be an option. So I would go ahead with your plans!

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I am not sure how old you are, but if your intention is to have two kids and you are in your mid or late 30s then you should begin trying right away. It took me about 9 months to get pregnant. If you are financially secure and want a second child then go ahead and begin trying. Just sharing my experience here. We don’t get much in the way of help since our parents live far away. My first child also had some developmental issues so we waited to have a second child and they are 5 years apart. I couldn’t be happier with this age difference. There are definite benefits to having siblings close in age but spacing them out like this was what was best for my family.

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9 months + a 3 month maternity leave means things will hopefully be back to normal. The difference in an 18 month old and a 2.5 year old is also HUGE. At 18 months you are actively preventing them from killing themselves. They get smarter and more independent (if you let them). My 2.5 year old (the third) is even able to put on her own socks and shoes now.

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If you’re just starting to try now we should be in a totally different world by the time your second arrives. If you want to have a second, go for it. You never know how long it is going to take and it could be delayed by miscarriage. My husband and I decided to start trying for our second in the summer and wound up with an ectopic that is just now almost resolved so we are set back many months.

I’m preggo right now with #2 and have a toddler at home. Short term, it might be fricking awful (if can’t get #1 into daycare bc covid) when the baby is born. But I think the struggle will be short term. The world is going to get back to a more ‘normal’ state very soon and we will have help raising these babes! If having a second now is what feels right for your family, I say go for it!! You might have a baby in 10 months or in 24 months. You never know!

I have two (and they were about 22 months apart).. it’s not that bad! But I agree you have to trust your instincts . And age does factor in. If you are mid to late 30s it could be harder the longer you wait

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