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So sick of my manager telling me i should get married and saddling me with all the extra tasks because everyone else has families. Anyone else dealing with this garbage?

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Draw boundaries. Bob, I already have a commitment today, so I won’t be able to get this to you until end of day tomorrow.

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OP, I’m suggesting not to take the extra tasks and clearly draw boundaries so you establish that your personal time is just as valuable as other team members. Do I agree that it’s wrong? Yes, it is. Easiest solution is to say no to those tasks. You can call him out on it too, if you feel comfortable, but in my experience the above works better.

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I used to make jokes that my children Merlot and Cabernet needed to be picked up from school just like everyone else’s (real) kids, but joking aside, this is really frustrating when a supervisor does this. It feels like double discrimination, and it’s totally unacceptable. I’d make sure to report this in some way. Does the rest of your team notice?

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Have dealt with this in the past, just because you are not married (for whatever reason) does not mean it’s fair to hand you extra tasks. Have you said anything to your manager regarding this?

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P1 I that misses the point. The problem isn’t when I can do someone else’s work, it’s that I’m having to do work that was meant for someone else at all in order to give them family time. Apparently my time is less valuable if I’m single.

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That’s actually what happened to me as well OP. They just rolled me off when I said something then I sat one the bench for 2 months doing bitch work before getting staffed again because I was a risk.

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KPMG1 you do realise ethics hotline is just a speed dial to the senior partners and OGC right? The same partners that are also trying to avoid a discrimination lawsuit? The stronger probability is that they’d push me out if I did that.

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Consultant1 yes, and he rolled me off to avoid marital status discrimination problems

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In fact id reported this to a director and he and the manager rolled me off. We aren’t working for the most ethical firm. It was a crapshoot. If either of them had been single it wouldn’t have happened. The rest of the team definitely notices. This manager bends over backwards to give married people with kids a break.

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Call ethics hotline. Could be seen as retaliation and/or discrimination

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