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Someone I used to work with wrote pretty bad feedback in my recent review. I quizzed him about it (without him knowing I knew it was him) and he said ‘the person that wrote it is cowardly’ and that he’d never write it, even though I know for a fact he did. Why would someone behave like this? Why can’t be a grown up and own up to it? Should I ask him directly why he wrote it?

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How do you know that he wrote it?

I’ve been told he is vindictive and others have told me to ignore it. It’s hard to accept that people can be to pathetic tbh. I guess it says more about him than me and I should brush it off rather than dwell on it.
Good point A1 about the confidentially. I won’t confront him and will let it go.

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Was the feedback fabricated? Was it all lies?

That makes perfect sense, if he’s calling himself a coward because he can’t give that kind of feedback face to face.

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