Someone is about to ask me to be their guy version of their maid of honor (gay friend) and I don’t know what to do. We had a huge falling out due to something she did 3 years ago after being friends for 6 years and I only “forgave her” because I was very close to the family. I want to say no because I don’t really see her as a good friend anymore. Honestly have no idea what to do with this…

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Say “thank you, I’m flattered, but I don’t have the time to do a good job supporting you. I’m so excited for you though!”

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You guys are right. I’ll just say I don’t have the time to do it correctly and that I’m touched she wanted me to do it

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You were friends for 6 years, but she did something that changed that. Doesn't everyone deserve a second chance? You say you've forgiven her but you haven't really. I don't know what she did to erase 6 years of friendship but I suggest you either really forgive her or move on.

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Why not hyst do it?

Okay so you’re not lying by saying you don’t have time, that’s totally fine! I’m sure she’ll take it okay, everyone should understand.

Say no.

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