Someone teach me how to flirt! How do I let this guy know I’m into him?

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Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Just note that it’s common for personal trainers, baristas, and bartenders to build rapport with clients and customers, especially their regulars.

Not saying there’s not a chance, but if he’s your PT, he may not interpret your banter and conversations as flirtatious.

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Yeah that’s what I’ve thought as well. Damn :(

Disagree with comments saying to tell him “hi I like you”. Too forward IMO. Plant a seed in his mind and see what he does next. Maybe look him in the eyes and smile softly and say “You know what, you look a lot like [notoriously attractive male celebrity]. I used to have a huge crush on him as a kid!” This will plant the seed that you find him attractive and give him an opportunity to make the next move. He can decide what to do with this information based on his professional boundaries and how he feels towards you.

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That’s a good idea but what if he still doesn’t get it? On the other hand, she could do this and then ask him to hang out for drinks.

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since he’s your trainer, i would suggest to approach carefully. if he’s professional enough, he won’t want to cross that boundary with you.

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Coming from an ex-PT: if he hasn’t initiated anything yet but you can feel some sort of connection, you could just ask him out “hey I was wondering if you wanted to meet up outside the gym sometime? Maybe get a quick (healthy!) bite after a workout together?”
If he says yes then hopefully you can take it from there
Note: he may say no just because he’s busy that day or has clients after you, if that is the case you can arrange a to meet up some other time
If he says straight up no, at least you can still keep him as a PT without making it too awkward compared to the “hey I like you”

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Thank you this was helpful

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You could tell him...

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Great, thank you! I’ll a way to work it into the conversations

So there’s no way to tell if he likes me before I put myself out there ?

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M2 - not looking for anything magical. Guess just looking for signs I might be going in the right direction.

It is also common for his clients to flirt with him, so this wouldn’t be the first time someone would be interested in him. Sorry; how serious are you or is this a fling?

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Then go for it. Few results
1. He says thank you very much but I like to keep it professional; you end up changing trainer
2. He says, let’s go out, you guys hook up and then it gets awkward for a number of reasons eg he sees other women clients etc, you find a different trainer
3. You guys are soulmates, get married and have kids; everyone is happy 😃
4. You guys go out, you don’t feel anything or there is bad sex and you don’t want to see him again

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Keeping your fingers crossed = ❌ flirting
Heathy bite = ❌ flirting

Use those 👆🏽s. Slowly run them down his 💪🏽s, tell him he’s got nice guns, 😉 and ask him if he would like a session to train them…

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Senior Manager 1 i enjoyed your response. Thanks. Google 1 tbis is for you 😝

Can you give us more details! How often do you see him in person and how to you chat now (phone, email, text, teams?)

Yeah, I do actually. But I don’t want to confuse it with just him being nice because that happens to me a lot.

Hi <blank> - I like you. Would you like to do X activity with me?

“Hi. I like you.”

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