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Sometimes I feel like I wanna be a house wife. Just get married and be with someone. Have a family. And that’s it. And then there is the other me. Wants to chase all things. Do you guys ever feel tht?

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If I was beautiful, attractive and witty, I would have been a housewife. Love the idea. But alas am not. However, when I do stay at home for a project shutdown or something, 2-4 days I get so bored out of my bones!!! So what I figure, it is YOU who is different (btw that includes me😊). And different is good. There are other things to chase in life. We are different. Old rules don’t apply that we need to conform So do what feels right, as long as it brings happiness and peace.

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Every time I have that thought I think about how hard my mother had after she divorced my father. That’s enough to make me get out and make money for myself.

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all the time...sigh can’t have it all...... I also make more than my significant other so quitting and being a housewife is not even a possibility.

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Yes, all the time and especially when I'm having a rough day or week courtesy of my misogynistic/harasser boss. But... I make more than my significant other and therefore can't quit any time soon, which tbh makes mr feel trapped

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All the time, but I also feel that I need 💰 to feel independent

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Part of me wishes I could be happy doing that, but the rest of me knows that I would not be a happy woman. We could survive on hubby’s salary, but it is much more fun having double that salary and getting to do all the extras

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Had it. Quit job and went back to school for masters degree part time while being a house wife. During that time professional women at community events would really be a bit dismissive of me like I was some loser. Then I rejoined the workforce with a prestigious firm and they all changed their tune. Be prepared. That really grated on me and I’m not sure I could deal with feeling on the sidelines etc for a long time. But it was good in many other ways like being able to support my family in a different way and do more things in the community.

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For me it’s not even about money. It’s about being able to be around people I love. I never knew i can feel like that. Nice to know I’m not alone.

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Ali Wong baby cobra on Netflix is everything

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Almost 30 years into my career and with two young adult children, I can tell you I went through phases where all I wanted to do was drive car pool, go to “book” club (aka a reason to meet with GFs and drink), and play tennis on Thursdays! However, we sent our kids through expensive private schools and quitting was not an option. My husband and I always managed to get through the crazy times and now that my kids are out of the house, I am soooo glad I stuck with work. Without a career now, I would be absolutely BORED out of my mind. Plus, many women I know who dropped out he workforce to be SAHMs we’re left out in the cold when their cheating husband’s decided they wanted out of the marriage. So now these smart educated women have to find a way back into the workforce after 20+ years and it’s rough. They are often in these jobs they could have done straight out of college like being a teachers aid, or working in retail. And I believe most men who are the primary breadwinners feel trapped, but it’s not something they are as open about because it’s what they’ve been raised to do ...

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I was a housewife for 2 years after I had my son. I couldn't wait to go back to work. Housework is hard!

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All the time!

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D7 it isn’t too late. You can lay down a plan for him to get his income to grow over time or just tell him you’re taking a step back. You can slowly start pushing the responsibilities onto him. Don’t let someone corner you into paying his way

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Is anyone still grinding it out after having kids who’s not the primary breadwinner? My husband out earns me by a lot but I still feel compelled to make my own $$$ and demonstrate working to my girls. Just wondering if I’m nuts.

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D3 I feel you! Same boat about having a significant other making less than me.

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All the time! My angst is due to feeling like I can’t do what I want in a state of flow for both my personal and professional life, I have to compartmentalize and be a little less than I would like to be in either or burn myself out on both ends with health consequences. It creates such a feeling of never having adequate control or mastery in each areas and feeling a little wanting, a little hungry in both, switching on and off, never completely in the zone and fulfilled. But such is life...

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No way. I work because I enjoy the camaraderie, the challenge, even honestly the power of knowing I convinced some executive to do something. Love spending time with my daughter but zero interest in being a stay at home mom. That said, you gotta do you!

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Hey D7, do not bring yourself down. No way!! You don’t have to be miserable. If it’s paying for support, think you made someone feel little and move on. If you have a child, by God!! They are yours and you take care and move on. LADY, in caps. You are worth it and you better get yourself together and take it all back - love happiness and money!!

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110% of the time. Some days I'm all about climbing the proverbial ladder. Compete! Compete! Compete! Other days, I want to live a quieter life in the country - still compete some times but not all the time. Guess my dream career is part time CEO 😎

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