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First off OP - digital hugs right at ya... I’ve done that move a few times in life... eventually I’ve learned the issue is within not around... wherever you move, people are people... and the world is now very very tiny.
Take some deep breaths, relax, and start looking within... whatever it is you want to improve, know that you actually can, and your barrier is just you getting started.
I’ve had this daydream a lot too. Unfortunately you can’t run away from yourself and inner demons - they will be with you no matter where you go. Try getting help if it’s bad, if it’s simply wanting something new and new people try joining some kind of group (after coronavirus of course). I joined a volunteer/networking organization this year and it’s kept me busy and forced me to go on outings with other people. I was enjoying it a lot until all of our events got cancelled. Hope things get better for you!
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Thanks for the tips, I’ll definitely have to think through my motivations for wanting to move!
I did this, with an SO. Keep in mind that a city doesn’t fix underlying causes of unhappiness
I went to LA btw
Talk to a professional, take a vacation.
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A city where they have no friends. Also any advice?
I actually did this, twice, but for slightly different reasons (wanted to get out of the trash filled dirt of nyc lol). Is your intention to not be around people at all? Or do you just want to disappear from your current friend groups? When I moved, both times, I went out by myself the first few weeks to gain new friend groups bc I personally need those interactions. If you don’t want human interaction, maybe go to the mountains or more remote places?
Currently doing this- nervous but beyond excited for the change of scenery and ready to rebuild myself
I feel you. Not inherently a good or bad idea. Just make sure you aren’t comparing the reality of your current city/life with a fantasy of how good a new city/life could be. It’ll be the same unless you do things differently — so what are the pros and cons of doing those different things in the new city versus your current one?
I’ve felt similarly many times — best I can say is “like attracts like.” Invest in yourself to become the person you want to be (hobbies, profession, etc.) and similar people will naturally fall into your orbit. If you’re naturally an introvert it’s much harder to do because the raw opportunities to meet people will be lower, but in time it’ll still happen.
Geo arbitrage is a thing though and this could help as long as you Know what it is you want to change! Change spurs change so I don’t think it’s a bad idea at all. Keep me posted on your plans, would love to learn from you. I have these same feelings all the time. 😊
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I really appreciate the positivity in this :)
I do think environments matter and I think being a better fit in some cities as opposed to others is a real thing. Now, on the other hand, you’ll still be the same person as you are now, so suggest working on fixing those things as well so you can get more enjoyment out of life wherever you live
Sorry to hear you're going through depression. I suffer from depression as well and went through this same feeling a few years ago...I kind of started over. I wanted change and went back to school in my dream city. It was one of the best decisions I've made and I wish I could have stayed and kept it that way (I had to go "home" because of visas). With that said, it was a much needed change for me but not everyone has the same outcomes. I'm back "home" now and just as miserable as I was before I left a few years ago....I'm figuring out how to get out of it again but its tough. Anyway, good luck, I hope it all works out for you. *virtual hugs*
Geographical solutions to emotional problems rarely work. Sorry to hear you're not feeling great.
What is it about the idea of a new city that appeals?
I hear you 100% on that. That's tough. The risk is you end up doing that, feeling better for a short time then finding yourself in the same situation elsewhere.
It may be worth taking a closer look at what you think is wrong about your current relationships.wirjcpeople vs prior. The brain has a tendency to 'grass is greener' it s little. Don't know your situation obviously, but certainly that was the case with me.
I have done this. Not because I was that unhappy in the city I used to live but I just wanted something new, exciting and to get out of my comfort zone.
I moved alone from Europe to Asia. Best decision ever.
I'm moving to LA! Lets be friends :)
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I've done this more than once. It didn't help.
That isn't to say that a change of scenery can't be beneficial. It can broaden your horizons and potentially give you a new perspective. I don't regret it for one second. Just don't expect it to cure your depression.
I moved to my dream city (SF) and was really hoping it would improve my mood. Honestly, I still struggle with the things I’ve struggled with before but I do feel more grateful and that’s huge in itself! Walking around the city, being able to go to my favorite spots, etc all brings me joy. It puts me in a better mood and optimistic to take on my problems. Sure, moving to a new city didn’t make the depression and underlying issues go away, but it helped me get to a better place to want to start working on them. Sending you love OP!
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You need to find peace where you are to move forward anywhere else.
Just bought a house in a random city! New chapter, new life!