Sometimes it feels like I’m just the side character to my fiancé’s story. I moved into her house. My dog died so now I just help her take care of her dog. I don’t have much family and no family close by, so we always do family events with her family. When I was single it was my dog and I against the world. Now I just feel like I don’t have anything anymore.

How many of you here are divorced? How long did your marriage last and what was the straw that broke the camel’s back?

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Any books that you found very helpful to read as expecting parents? We’re just nine weeks along, but would love to start preparing however we can!

Is it me or does Ana have nonstop rbf? She definitely could not play poker because her face does not hide her feelings at all.

Does anyone live with their parents in their late 20s? How did you build boundaries with your parents and counter their expectations that you owe it to them?

How do people make friends in Boston? I haven’t made friends here since college... not sure if I should be trying to expand my network.

If you had a magical wand to change just one thing about your SO, what would you change?

I have a sibling that wants to work at the same firm I work at. Work is what I have to myself, and I don’t want them there in my space. It feels icky but it’s my comfort zone, what do I do?

I miss truly being excited about someone, getting the butterflies and all. Being excited about your day all because you will get to see someone… must be one of the best feelings in the world.

Divorce or not? Loveless marriage, but love our 2 children and enjoying being close to them. Seeing my brother struggle with joint custody and think this is not for me. Too lazy/busy to rock the boat.

Been with a girl for years. We get along well and enjoy each other's company. We're comfortable around each other, and I've generally been happy with her. As we've begun talking about marriage, I'm really giving some deliberate thought as to whether she's the right life partner for me. I'd pondered it before, but our relationship progressed very organically so never gave it too much serious consideration.

Now that I think of it, cont..

My family/friends ask me for store discounts all the time. It's really uncomfortable to say no, but I have to. Any tips on how to handle these conversations?

So let’s say if someone’s father / very close relative was very high up in the government of India in Delhi. How does that person go about leveraging his / her relationships, legally, to do something in India? Would you rather do that or stay in the US in consulting?

I really just want to get married and have a baby. Fuck all this other shit. But I’ll always work because being a stay at home mom is not an option.

How do you go about building trust with your partner?

I’m in a fairly new relationship (few months) and it’s long distance. Both of us have trust issues, and we are trying to find way to build that trust between us. We want to do it without having to constantly prove ourselves, as we feel that undermines much of the trust.

Any suggestions how you built trust w your partner? I’m aware that much of it comes from within, or personal insecurities, which I’m trying to figure out how to address too

Being an IT guy ,is it a wise decision to marry an IT professional.

Please share your views and experience on this

What's the best relationship advice you've heard recently?

Met this guy through friends a few years back. He made me feel really special, told me he was going through a bad patch with his gf at that point. Things happened between us in a couple of months and

Does anyone have ideas for social distancing little kids walking in line? Teaching personal space in moving lines is difficult in normal years, but this year I don't know how I will get them to keep a 6ft. distance as they walk.

Need advice.
I’ve met several friends through tinder, grindr, hinge. Strictly platonic friendships now. Have a boyfriend of 2 years who isn’t happy. Am I in the wrong for having those friends?

Looks for advice on how to stop spending so much money. I like really nice things and spend a lot of money to get them (food, clothes, furniture, apartment, gifts, etc.) I use everything I buy...

In DC, is the best way from Dulles to the Shaw neighborhood gonna be the Silver Line Express to the Metrorail? Looks like a cab/Lyft/Uber seems a bit pricey.

I am currently seeking a role in Healthcare Policy Leadership in the DC Market, my experience has been in in the intersection of Healthcare & Social Services in both the Private and NonProfit sector. I have a BA in Forensic Psych, an MPA, an MPhil in Public Policy and currently in the last leg of my PH.D in Public Policy with a specialization in Health Policy.

I would appreciate any advice anyone could give that might point me in the direction of any open roles.

What types of rounds can i expect from Google, for AI/ML role? I have a phone screening round scheduled for tomorrow. Thanks

Im a phlebotomist and my boss recently offer to interview for a lab technician within the company. How should I negotiate the salary ?

-(I been working as a Phleb doing most of the stuff a lab technician does.)

I went through two rounds of interviews for
a job that the posting stated $36.66 per
hour (FP&A Analyst)…the company
recruiter had told me in the initial call the
pay could be 32-36 because of the other
benefits. If I do get a job offer what range
should I try for? I was really hoping to get
around the 36-40 but now I feel like they
may try to offer lower than what was
posted. Also there was no range but the
average for this position is upper 70s-90k.
Thanks for any help!

Going off of the student loan question. Should I refinance? I am on the pay as you earn and have only payed towards interest at this point (2 years out). I have a mixed bag of interest rates rn. $160k

Anyone else planning on getting no work done on Wednesday when American democracy explodes?

What is something your firm could do to boost associate morale and improve firm culture?

How many leaves are there in Citi?

What is a decent annual billable requirement? Also, billing tips are appreciated. For some reason I am really struggling. Am I self sabotaging?!

Could anyone kindly help me understand what legal & compliance teams at PE houses do day to day, please? I'm still in law school and interviewing for a Summer Analyst position at Blackstone next week. I have a rough idea but would be good to hear from people with first hand experience. Would also appreciate any guidance on any questions that might be asked/that I should prepare.

Thanks!

Life is good because ____? Feeling deeply depressed about life

🏆 Inspo Thread 🏆
Getting laid off is tough—let's use this thread to lift each other up and share any inspiration or encouragement you've encountered while navigating this difficult time.

Good morning.

Trump decided to not do anything about the Russian bounty program on US troops this week.

Why are there so many job postings that I have applied for but nothing happening? Are the jobs that are posted truly open? I know we are in 4th quarter and wasn’t sure if corporation’s like to hire then?

My spouse is currently having emergency surgery and I am in the waiting room with my laptop getting coverage on my cases for tomorrow, finalizing things I can’t pass off to someone else, and regretting all my career related life choices.

Feeling really demotivated!
A female associate recently made an allegation of inappropriate behaviour against me…Cont’d

I just got catcalled by a homeless man and low key feeling myself rn 💅💅💅

If I am vaccinated and go to a bar or house party where other people are all maskless, I don’t think I should be shamed by PC friends the day after who say you are putting others at risk even though I don’t really put anyone at risk outside of the idiots taking a much larger risk unvaccinated at these superspreaders (live alone, home gym, order all meals and/or grocery, masked up all other places)

I have been in my phone all day and havent really worked because i keep thinking about the guy I’m obsessed with but can’t have 😂

In line with my previous question…how much is your personal credit history worth to you? If you found out that a data broker that has significant security gaps buys your data (let’s say from Experian) and resells it to marketing agencies with even less security, would you care? If you’ve ever received “you’re qualified for this loan, credit card, etc. “ marketing in the mail, that’s based on the data analytics from the data broker.

Who’s working today? The day after the Big Game.

What is corporate burnout and what do you do to prevent it? How do you know when it's starting to happen?

My neighbor is absolutely blasting house music right now. Sir it’s 1PM… I’m trying to nap

Hi, I need help! Anyone here in Project management available for a quick chat about their career?? I have an interview soon and some unbiased insight would be great. Thank you in advance

I discovered subletting is better than Airbnbs etc. If ya know you know 👌

Does anyone like their significant other? I feel like almost everyone I talk to or hear about can’t half ass stand their SO? Is anyone happy these days?! I guess everyone has flaws or bad times…

Does anyone have really bad anxiety and brain fog on Mondays even after a quiet weekend? I feel like it’s my brain and body telling me I’m burn out but don’t know how to fix it

I crave a super emotionally intimate sexual connection but when an emotional connection progresses, I run away before we get to intimacy 🤡

30 M 🐟 here

I have an Oedipal Complex that has transferred from my Mom to my MIL and now I’m trapped in a marriage in which my needs will never be fully met. AMA.