Started a new job -- client facing, internal visibility, name recognition at industry events within my org and others in the field. Get along well with everyone, and as people feel comfortable with me personally, I get asked how old I am -- response has always been "young!" Range about 5-10 yrs younger than those who ask and who consider me "peers" and 10-20+ younger than those considered seasoned/old-timers.

Should I stop answering and just deflect? Don't feel it hurts, but don't feel it helps, either. I don't feel old or young, tho this travel is starting to make my body feel like an old lady.

What do you all think?

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Go ahead and give your age, itll challenge the status quo for the next gen, as long as it doesn't hurt you

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I always say my age and ask then theirs. Everyone should share in the discomfort.

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I usually say "old enough" it's none of their business

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I like to say I’m older than I look! And change the subject

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If you are comfortable just say your age. I always say my age. I don’t give AF what the other person thinks of it. As soon as they work with me for 10 minuets my age isn’t going to be what they remember about me.

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If you want to make them uncomfortable, “How old do you think I am?” I used to say “Older than you think” or “Older than I look”. Now that I am 46, I just say it, as it plays to my advantage professionally, or I say 19 years in consulting. Good luck.

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Don’t feel pressured to give your age.

Old in wisdom, young at heart

Or I'm older than I look... and have a rigorous anti-wrinkle skincare routine ;)

I say I never tell my age and move on to the next thing

Wow ppl just flat out ask your age? Just do some LinkedIn stalking and estimate like the rest of us civilized folks. Lol

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