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Started a new job with a new company in September last year and now I'm 5 months pregnant. I know I'm not supposed to feel bad about this as I know several companies like Shopify hire people who are 7 months pregnant..there is a part of me that still feels guilty like as if I didn't prove myself enough to go on mat leave this quickly. Any advice or thoughts on how to think about this?

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Was/am in a similar position. I try to remind myself that the policy is what it is, irrespective of whether “I proved myself” or not. Because parental leave is something all of us should have access to - not just those who “earn” it. Give ‘em your best for the next 4 months (which most certainly will ebb and flow and that is also normal). Work will always be there for you after leave. ♥️

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I would not feel guilty, and they hopefully won’t put you in that position to feel guilty. You did what was best for you, and they should be okay with that. Don’t add on stress of feeling guilty when you should try and enjoy that little human you’re making :)

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I just wanna update you all on this! So first, I went for my morphology ultrasound and baby is healthy AND we're having a baby girl 💕😍 we're over the moon with excitement lol!!!! Second, I shared the news with my work and they're really happy and excited for me (I mean at least that's what they shared 😅) and they also appreciated that I shared the news now as there is plenty of time to plan and adjust. There will be more planning conversations to come but I just feel much better that they know this big upcoming milestone in my life🙏🏻

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I'm sure you'll come back and continue to "prove yourself". Look at it this way, you were going to have a baby (I'm assuming), sometime, so does it really matter when? Frankly, it might be easier when you're still relatively new Congrats!

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Your guilt is very understandable, I respect that. However, here is something that you can tell to yourself. It's all the way same - you serve the org, and get your mat leave benefits or you get the mat leave and then serve your org. Also, as your maternity proceeds you will realise that nothing much matters other than best of you and your angel's health. Hope these words will be helpful!

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I totally get this. I’m going through the interview process now and I’m almost 4 months along. I am still debating to tell them before offer so that they know what they’re getting into :(

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I started a new job 5 months pregnant and also felt some guilt! But at the end of the day, pregnancy is not something that you can plan for (in most cases) and there’s never an ideal time - as long as your team is understanding about it, I wouldn’t let the guilt take over

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