Starting a new year next as year three clean and sober and now since then I have gotten an apartment, a car, and a job I love, a hobby I enjoy and have grown exponentially! My parents were raging alcoholics and I suffered in silence until college when I was already drinking at sixteen and overseas I started drugs in college! There is a light in the tunnel and self love vs. self loathing is how I treat myself!

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Have you heard of ACA? I started 6 months ago and it’s really powerful.

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No I haven’t

Al Anon is also for adult children. It's a family disease! 5 years+ sober in A.A. now doing the 12 steps also in Al Anon and it's changing my life all over again in the best way!
No doubt I grew up under the influence of alcoholism -- and my link goes back to grandparents. All the sick thinking and dysfunction can get handed down just the same. Mine sure did. Getting more and more free! Highly suggest trying out Al Anon meetings to anyone curious.

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