Starting to irk me when the doormen ask if I live in my building…does this happen to others? Are they trained to profile or something? (I’m a poc) does this happen to other folks?

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I live near a shelter and one time they told me “this isn’t the shelter” and I looked at him, took my AirPods out, and said “wtf are you talking about”

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I’m a POC, and no it hasn’t happened to me. In fact, I think they remember me more because I’m a POC 🤣

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Same

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this happened to my wife and I with one of the doormen in our building when we moved in a few years ago. we are white. several times this guy stopped us and asked if he could help us and that we needed to check-in at the front desk, despite the fact we had already seen him multiple times. and it’s a small building, so we felt it was strange and found it hard to believe he didn’t remember us.

one time, he accused us of stealing a package from the lobby (doormen sign for packages there on our behalf and then residents pick them up later). knocked on our door and everything and told us to give back the package we had taken. we were honestly shocked, and since then, our interactions with this guy have been very cold and we basically pretend like the other doesn’t exist. it’s so strange. the other guys that work here are very friendly.

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I'm a POC, but I get concerned when a new worker doesn't ask me. Makes me think they're not doing their security job properly. After the first couple weeks after I moved in, all the workers knew me. But also it can be hard for them to keep track - my building has like 300 people

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I'm concerned a new doorman who's never seen me before didn't ask. I think they should ask everyone atleast the first time. That's kind of their job to act as a security guard

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If it angers you, be a Karen. There is nothing wrong with embracing that. You won’t be asked again.

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Not all POCs are created equally. But yes, as a black person the doorman once thought I was the Ubereats delivery person

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Happened to me in my last building and I’m white. It was part of a complex with a rotating cast of characters. The few times I’ve been stopped I’ve said “I have lived here for five years…” and then strolled past.

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If you're rude about it, they may stop asking people and decrease the overall security of the building.

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I’m a female POC and it doesn’t happened to me (I always confidently say hi and walk in and the usual lobby men know me and the new ones probably assume I live here). Whenever I’ve had male friends over (who just happen to be all POC)- they’ve been questioned rightfully so cause the eye don’t live here (do you live here, who are you visiting?)

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Yup and they would let in all my white male dates right in and stop me.

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Nope, my building has over 800 units so it does make me wonder tho how they know who does. If you live in the building, everyone basically says hi, walks past them and towards the elevator or the mailroom. if you're a delivery person, they always have to check in so that the doormen/security rings the elevator up for them

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All the doormen in my building knew my wife and I by name by the 2nd day after moving in and the building has 46 floors. Sounds like you need better doormen.

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Still happens to me with one doorman- who’s done it five times since I moved in last October…

I get that all the time as a POC

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