Stopped drinking a year ago after a particularly rough period. Lately I’ve been having thoughts and considerations around starting again. I think my friend circle has changed a lot so I wouldn’t fall into that crazy party lifestyle. Has anyone stopped then started again successfully? I never drunk THAT much but it was impacting my life (sending stupid messages I shouldn’t have been sending) and getting blackout occasionally. I do think it was having a negative impact on my life

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So... I have not ever been able to drink without it causing problems in my life. Not all the time, but eventually it always led me to make shitty choices that had a negative impact on my life.

I don’t know you, but if you’re concerned enough about your drinking that you had to stop before, odds are you may have a problem again.

Also, as a person who drank to the point of blackout quite a bit, I’ll just say normal drinkers don’t do that. Like at all. I’ve checked.

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I cut back drinking drastically last year because the guy I was dating was an alcoholic. That’s the reason I joined this bowl. I started only drinking on vacation (because my vacays were not with him) but after I ended the relationship I kept that rule and I have never felt better.

The relationship was painful and it made me respect the power that alcohol has over people. While I was not an alcoholic, strictly limiting my intake has been life changing and I’m grateful for the lesson that I received in dating him.

Could you consider a rule like mine?

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Only you can determine if you’re an alcoholic, but alcohol almost always causes problems on a long enough timeline. Something that hit home for me was when someone said:

“I don’t always get in trouble when I drink, but every time I’ve gotten in trouble I was drinking.”

I am an alcoholic who found recovery in AA (2.5+ years sober), but I think the AA Big Book would be fascinating for anyone, whether they’re a non-drinker or someone questioning “how bad they have it”.

If you’re open minded, it can’t hurt to read the Big Book (you can even do it online for free). The book talks about trying some “controlled drinking”. Basically, see if you can drink like a “normal person”. You might be able to do it for a week or a month, but eventually control will be lost (if the person has the disease of alcoholism).

Lastly, the first step in AA, is admitting that we were *powerless* over alcohol, and that our lives had become *unmanageable*. Once I admitted that I had no power, and could see how my life was unmanageable (and heading towards disaster), I started to become willing to try 12-step recovery.

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Great review Director 1. I completely agree with you (sober 3 years). Sober grid app is a good way to network with other like minded individuals exploring and achieving recovery. Go to AA meetings if you want to learn more.

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I never could stay stopped once I restarted.

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