Story: I had this group of girlfriends. Over the past year, two of them got in a major fight and I remained friends with both. The group all sided with one girl because they knew her longer, and I kept being friends with both because I genuinely cared for both. Now the larger group is saying if I remain friends with the other girl, I can’t be their friend (we’re 28). This makes me sad because I feel like my “friendships” are just falling to the wayside

Settle an argument... how often do you run the dishwasher?

Hey guys, planning to shift to Kolkata on 1-Aug-22.

Please guide me on best place/area to reside with small family.
I am coming from Hyderabad with family and a pet dog and looking forward to a good society with amenities.

Thanks!!

Why am I scared and embarrassed to show affection towards my family, despite wanting to?

For example, sometimes I just want to hug my mom (I just graduated and still live at home) or even just say I Love You, but I Can't!

I have a really good relationship with my family so I don't understand why I can't just muster the courage to show affection?

I don't have any issues with showing affection to my SO...

Anyone have any ideas? Do I need a therapist?

(38F). My boyfriend (39M) after 2 years together (long distance but travel to one another and spend time), suddenly told me he wants to try to be a musician again. He did this in his 20s , failed and started his corporate career at 26. He’s a Senior Manager in Fl but i personally feel is underpaid. He was supposed to move in to my place in September and start living together. I initially told him I would support his music on the side while he pursues his corporate career full time. *Cntd below*

Ladies, did you change your last name after getting married? I’m worried about the impact it will have on my publications.

What’s something your clients wish they would have known before filing for divorce?

Being single in this quarantine is the worst thing ever. This could have been such a fantastic bonding time with our S/O (if only we had one 🤷‍♀️)

Best states for adoption if you're in a same-sex marriage?

Can straight guys and girls every just be friends? Every straight guy friend I have ever had has either expressed romantic or sexual interest at least once in our friendship or vice versa.

I just received an email to my personal account intended for someone else with the same name as me from their cousin wanting to reconnect. They said all these amazing things about this other person...

Not necessarily health related. My husband and I have been married for 14 years. Both in mid to late 30s. We got married young without a lot of plans and now my clock is ticking we've been thinking about having kids. But neither of us really wants to have any although wouldn't mind having one if it happens. Just wanted to hear from both parents and couples with no kids. What do you like/dislike about your situation? What made you decide where you are now? Any advice for us?

Love is patient and kind.
Love is not jealous, it does not brag, and it is not proud. 
Love is not rude, it is not selfish, and it cannot be made angry easily.
Love does not remember wrongs done against it.  
Love is never happy when others do wrong, but it is always happy with the truth.  
Love never gives up on people. It never stops trusting, never loses hope, and never quits. 
Love will never end.
Humbled, convicted, but thankful. Our Father, Jesus and the Holy Spirit love us this way!

How do people make friends here? I have the ones i grew up with and a couple I made in the last couple of years (neighbors/through mutual friends) but I generally find that people here just stick with their social circles

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

I have been in my position for 27 years and have never seen such a state of affairs as I have this year (but then, with the pandemic, who has, right?) Well, long story short, we've gone hybrid (some in person, some online). The teacher has been out with surgeries and covid. I have been teaching both groups at the same time. Sometimes a sub for help, sometimes not. I love the kids, but really?

How to constructively talk about the long term future with SO? We (both 26) have been together 6 years with the last 3 as LDR. We are supposed to be moving in together over the summer, but given she is moving across state lines I don’t think this should be a light decision. It’s reaching the point that if we don’t move in I don’t think we should continue dating and I also don’t want her to move in without talking in detail about core relationship topics (marriage, finances, etc).

Is your partner your best friend too? Or should they? In my case, they are 2 different people and it’s hard to manage their expectations

My boyfriend has given soo many red flags over the past year but we’ve been trying to make it work. Heated arguments consistently every other week. We disagree on a lot of “expectations” in a relationship. He can be controlling and quick to get angry, and I just can’t take this emotionally anymore (esp when he blames me for making him angry). Tips on getting through the break up convo when you know it’s the right thing to do but you love them & it hurts like hell to end things?

I moved to Philly from Chicago burbs for my current job in 2017. Love working for this company. They believe in employee growth and put in their time effort and money behind their current employees. 2020 has been though, I still have my job but have never missed my family this much. Since we’ve been working from home, I’ve stayed with family for couple of months. Now I don’t feel like living away from them. Just confused between family and career. Any advice?

I'm a US citizen living abroad I applied almost 11 months ago for my spouse. Married for years, kid. I wait and wait. It seems this will take 2 years, maybe more. I feel trapped. On one side the US system demands I work and domicile in US, the other side says families should be prioritized to stay together. My spouse has had enough of the process. I feel trapped abroad and locked in a dysfunctional system. We're just in limbo, it's depressing

How do you get over the fear of failing? Do you think failing is part of the process?

How much would an Advisory senior in EY’s Life Science Quality and Compliance focus area make ? YoE: 4 years

Guys, I need your thoughts on a dilemma. I have a rule, that whenever someone cooks, the other person should do the dishes, ideally that night. Not unreasonable. I do most of the cooking now since I WFH and my husband goes into his office. When he’s supposed to do dishes he lets them “soak” and they’ll sit there for a few days..it’s so gross and I can’t handle it. I’ve tried different strategies of explaining, yelling, not yelling, doing them myself after all, mini cooking strikes, etc. Help?!

Hi all, Which company is good to join ? if offer is almost same based on work life balance, flexible working hour, work culture.

1. Cognizant
2. TCS
3. Capgemini

Hi All,

I am having offers with

PwC - 17L fixed
Mphasis - 20L fixed
NTT data - 18.65L fixed
Robert Bosch - 20L fixed with 8% variable
Birla soft - 20L fixed

Could you please give your suggestions which one is the better to go for other positions.

YOE is 8.6 years
Stack: SharePoint, Power Platform, Azure

Thoughts on messaging on the 10/21 Risk Assurance transition webcast for those staying in Assurance? Still as clear as mud.

Can we delete our submitted broadband claim?

More layoffs at Deloitte making me wonder if I chose the right firm. #whyohwhyhaveyouforsakenmedaddyD #ithoughtseniorlevelandaboveweresafe

Negotiating salary in early stage start ups can be tricky. I was wondering if anyone has a some idea about how much stock options can be asked for pre Series B startup. Would 0.2-0.4% of the total existing shares be fair for Mid Senior Scientist?

Dear Fishes,

Anybody joining Citi tomorrow the 18thMay2022 ? Please comment

Poll. What is everyone’s favorite Taylor Swift album?

Thinking about doing el camino de Santiago next year. What’s the best month? Which trail would you recommend? And how did you prepare?

Entry level cloud engineer salary range for ease coast ?

Hi, I am moving from edmonton to toronto. can anyone give me an idea how much I should ask for a senior mobile developer position in Toronto?

I’ve been offered a new role for 48k with a signing bonus but I’ve checked on Glassdoor and can see the budget for the role is 50-73k. I’d it worth me trying to negotiate for higher? I don’t have any previous experience in the field but it is something I’m trying to pivot into so this would be a good starting point. The job title is for a Product Marketing Executive

Hi Guys, how much salary should be expected for SDM L6 role in Toronto?

Been out of the loop for a while.
What’s the salary range for a full stack (rails+react) senior engineer?
Working from the west coast (Canada) remotely.

My last job was at a start-up and I truly hope it goes down in flames. They severely underpaid everyone, management was a dumpster fire on a good day, and they were all around terrible people who thought that giving us a coffee machine (that didn’t work half the time) was the greatest luxury and SO generous and a great reason to work there

Andor is really, really good.

I’m 23 and I still sleep with my blankie!

I need help. I’m at a job right now with a company I love and a decent salary probably getting a promotion in a few months. I just got an offer from another company with a 50% increase in base, bonus structure, and other compensation benefits in the same role I’m in now. I went back to my current company and they gave me a slight bump in base salary but nothing close to what I’ll get with the new one. What would you guys do? Stay or jump ship?

About to relocate to the Bay Area and need to find an apt, current TC is 300k with 180k base. For me, view and the place I live in is really important, so I would like to rent a 3.5k place I really love instead of 2k studio. What would the 1.5k delta (per month) bring to me to make me happy in the event I go with the 2k studio? I am having a hard time thinking of the happiness the additional 18k would bring to me, on top of everything I am already saving/investing. 

So what if i told you all i made a bbw baddies bowl?

A question for those who don't like WFH: have you been able to adapt and make it work for you? How? It seems like our firm is going to stay WFH (or make it optional.) I know that I’m in the minority of people who like the office environment. And I also realize the way we network and connect has evolved. I'd like to learn how to get the same kind of fulfillment online that I got from being in the office. Any tips?

I don’t wanna work at all 😭

Postmates just sent me an email boasting $20 off for order above $30, clicked into it and found out it is only giving me $10. Not even stated in email fine print. These startup promo just border on scams these days.

Is it racist for a black fan to be upset (comment on their photo) that their favorite black celebrity has chosen a white girlfriend? "Are there no black ladies available".
Two friends feel differently - one says the black fan is racist towards the white gf and the other says the fan is ignorant but not racist. What do you think? Please explain your stand. Thanks!

Sometimes I keep a jar of hotdogs on my desk because it reminds me of my childhood. I don’t eat them, I just smell them as I work.

Came to get a mani pedi and ended up getting a deep tissue massage. Finally at the sauna chilling. I guess today was not a complete waste after all. ☺️

I have come to the realization that I have a fear of succeeding. Every time I am in a position to move up in a company or to learn something new, I instead begin to look at other jobs. I don’t know why I do it?

It's funny how many people like to hate on Florida but everyone was so quick to leave their Manhattan apartments to flood the Miami market. I get it, I'm jealous as someone who lives in Chicago and I have to suffer through incompetent governance and sad weather.