Suffering from the worst depression I've had in a long time, having severe sleep issues, and feel like I may have a slight drinking problem. How the hell do you self care when you don't have the time?

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OP- yes, my family is the same way, and guess what, psychological research shows that it is actually very damaging to have a support system that says that. I now go to therapy weekly and essentially pay a therapist to be my support system. Worth it. Hard to make the time and hard to afford, but worth it. Once you start asking the right people, you'll find therapists whi do evenings or Skype sessions. Sorry you feel this way. Every time you family negates your feelings just remind yourself that they are valid and accept them. The more we reject our emotions, the more they will control us. I try to identify, feel, accept, and then move on whenever I have having negative emotions.

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Our life works site has really good resources including counselor hotline 24/7. Also, try not to drink alone and without dinner. A lot of people have social drinking problems because alcohol is so easy and socially accepted. Also, read Dr. Cloud's book on Boundaries. If you let the firm decide when to make time for you, they never will.

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You don't. Please, please, talk to clinical professional, your HR dept, and get the help (and space) you need. You're not alone, and many people want to care for you.

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I'm at pwc and just have no idea how to seek out help. I don't want to talk to anyone and be perceived as weak or someone who can't handle the work. I know that's not the case but stigma around mental health is definitely real

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Talkspace - great app - but i would also recommend seeing someone is person - nothing wrong with some pharmaceuticals

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OP- I have depression and have been struggling a lot lately. I was given remote time (for unrelated reasons), I am seeing a therapist, and I use the X effect to force myself to work out every day. I have also stopped eating any foods that make me feel sluggish. It helps. There's a way out. You CAN go to HR and talk to them and at least develop a legitimate cover to get the time you need. Take care of yourself, OP. No one will do it for you.

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@D1, I did the 23andme test and also have the MTHFR mutation. I tried some special multivitamins but they wrecked my already sensitive stomach. What vitamin specifically are you having success with? I also empathize with OP...can't sleep, drink too much, painful, self destructive cycle that just makes everything worse.

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Even my family has just said I need to stop "making everything into a bigger issue than it needs to be". Like k I'll get right on that.

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OP- my family always says the same to me. Your feelings are valid. See if you can download one of those text therapy apps.

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OP, my family and my ex said the exact same thing to me as well as some co-workers. It had gotten to the point of thinking that maybe they were right. I've been dealing with this for years and I don't know what to do.

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We should discuss... concerned I'm in the same position

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Take a 3 week break from drinking. You'll feel so much better, and you'll go back to drinking with a better attitude about this fun past time of ours.

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OP - it sounds like you already recognize yourself as a depressive, and so have had (or do have) clinical input to your wellbeing. Talk with them (or an alternative clinician of your choosing) about some of the ideas speculated about here. There are a myriad of reasons why you could be feeling how you are, some physiological, some psychological, some which could be addressed by pharmaceuticals, some through therapy.. we are not clinical professionals though!

You mention above that the leaders you feel comfortable with are all in your service line - do you have one that you believe you could trust to help you through this? Or at least can help you find the right resources in PwC for support?

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I believe in you, OP. Your feelings are valid. Do your best to make self-care a priority. It's not easy nor a linear path, but it's so worth it. I hope you can find a support system through counselors and friends that help. Having people to talk to makes a world of difference. Check out online resources of mental health organizations like NAMI - they have great ideas for how to get started.

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I've asked the same question. 😢

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See above - and ACN does have the resources in place

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You have to prioritize your self care above all else and tell everyone else to deal with it.

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Don't talk to HR. They aren't your friends

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PwC does have resources in place, and I know a number of leaders there who would want to assist their people with such and related issues.

Do you have relationships with SM/Principals outside of your reporting line that you might feel comfortable talking to?

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@D1 thanks for that. Good to know im not alone but also shitty that any of us have to feel this way

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