Super serious sexy question. Wife and I are mutually busy and ambitious people (workout out, grinding at work, side hustles, saving money etc). We’re very similar in our approach to life, which is why we love each other so much, but as a consequence we have both felt like our s*X life has almost taken a back seat because we get swept up in our immediate day to day. How do y’all approach setting time for and/or prioritizing your s*X life? Open to all tips

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Put it on the calendar. Seriously. If you’re that kind of couple.

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Put something on the calendar that is suggestive of the activity, but not the activity itself. That way it is not forced! Emotionally speaking this would be the better way to handle it.

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Will reiterate what everyone else said: regular time once per week, preferably earlier in the day so it doesn’t get lost in the “we’re too tired after a long day.” That way you both are looking forward to that time each week.

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Nearly included that line myself 😬

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Well start by prioritizing date nights, romantic weekends, quality time alone.

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Second this. Scheduling s*x is fine but you’re likely to lose intimacy and connection over time without also making space for quality time and connection.

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Honestly start off by sending a dirty text randomly to your SO and dirty talk. That way when you two see each other you guys cant help but think about that text and get excited to do it lol i would sometimes send my SO a dirty pic and basically telling him I cant wait to have him and he would show the same reaction and passion. Just making your partner feeling sexy and wanted gets the mood started.

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And by doing all this it doesnt make scheduling intimate time to feel boring or not spontaneous. It just makes you eager for that time to come.

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Schedule it just like any other activity you prioritize and go after it just as hard as the other areas of your life. It doesn’t have to be spontaneous for it to be great!

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Yes I'll echo prioritizing yourselves along with your goals. It's so exciting to find someone oriented the same way as you. There is all the time to accomplish things together, don't forget to enjoy the journey.

Put on the calendar

Yeah, I think you need to both agree that sex is an important part of a healthy relationship. That makes it easier to be align on its urgency or absence when other things pop up.

I honestly would love to put it in a calendar lol give me something to look forward to

Say hi to your wife’s boyfriend 🤣

Don’t rope me into this convo please

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My SO and I are similar. Like others have said, we somewhat schedule it. We don’t put it on the calendar but will talk about it and agree that X night is our time.

Watch the Netflix show - How to build a sex room.

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