Tbh I believe people have kids to please others and because they think it's what they're supposed to do but I feel like being a parent probably has more cons than pros.

I'm really happy to be childless đŸ˜«đŸ€ž

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I tend to agree. A lot of the reason to seem to be rooted in some form of selfishness. People can do whatever they want though so idc much. I may not be a parent but I was child long enough to see how a lot of parents didn’t quite hit the mark. Unnecessary stress.

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Don’t forgot people’s self-centered goals of “wanting to see a little me”. Never ceases to amaze me how special people think their genes are. Great litmus test for this is how OBSESSED some couples are to conceive but absolutely refuse to adopt. Wild.

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That is completely patronizing and tone deaf and not at all empathetic. Peace out

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This is always my favourite analogy:

Having kids is like backcountry hiking up a mountain. It's dirty and exhausting and often has long stretches of misery. It also has deep, joyful, exhilarating experiences that you will not get any other way.

Some people absolutely love it and center their lives around it. Other people think it sounds awful and want no part in it. Both are reasonable perspectives.

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100%! It’s such a personal decision

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I want to travel the world and have awesome seggs with my hubby for as long as possible without kids

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Ok.. then do that! All the power to ya

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You’re not a parent so you can’t comment on the cons nor pros #Pathetic

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Billions of people have become parents. You are not special.

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I think having children gives a lot of people purpose that wouldn’t have it otherwise. I’m also happily childless (and maybe purposeless - not sure). Being a parent looks really hard and some of my friends definitely seem to regret it. I support them how I can and enjoy spending time with their children.

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You’ll feel this way when you’re young but likely not when you’re older

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Easily Old enough to be your father and in some cultures maybe grandfather

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As a happy parent - I commend people who can openly admit that they don’t want children. It’s not for everyone but you’re right in that society kind of has made it the norm. You graduate, get a job, get married, buy a house and have babies. It’s so antiquated. So kudos to you 👏

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Um. I had kids for me. And I ♄ them. But they are a lot of work, admittedly. Today we cuddled in bed before they zzzz and it was the best 15 min of my day. And Ftr, I had a great day

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Your kids are likely your only true legacy and an opportunity for your genes to survive millions of years, like your ancestor's genes have survived millions of years to make you. It is your biological purpose, made through billion+ years of evolution. You're alive today because someone had kids because someone had those kids because someone had those kids. Not really into kids myself, but looking at it from this perspective helps me realize my biological purpose in life

10,000 years what will you have passed on? If you helped others somehow, I guess your learnings may have passed on through others. With kids, it's concrete what you have passed down

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