The last four years of my career have been a grind. I got divorced, lost my job twice (one company was acquired & I was cut out, the other was a client loss at an agency) and I’ve been diagnosed...

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With Borderline Personality Disorder. My current job isn’t a fit for reasons that are very different. I like my job more often than I don’t, but my current gig isn’t friendly toward mental illness. I believe I am bright and diligent but I shut down when I feel attacked and unsupported. What do I do? I’m an integrated brand planner and feel like my career has taken an awful turn the past four years in part because of the above - though I’m of course culpable in these experiences. I feel lost and frightened, and am often gaslit on a daily basis.

I'm sorry you're going through this, OP. It sounds like you're already seeing a therapist if you were diagnosed. I would start to put feelers out there and try to find a company where you're 100% supported and appreciated. Hang in there.

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