The most perfect girl I went to school with and played tennis with is engaged. I’ve had a successful life post-college and I’m really grateful for what I have. I’m embarrassed to even say I unfollowed her on social media because it made me really sad seeing how happy she is with her family and partner. I know comparison doesn’t make sense and it takes away from what I have for myself but it’s hard not to

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You did the right thing by unfollowing her. Comparison is the thief of joy, we can’t help it, so we should avoid it

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Do what you need to preserve your mental health.

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It’s ok to feel that way. I think it’s important to acknowledge social media is also very misleading.
Happy in a picture doesn’t really mean fully content / happy so there is no sense in comparing because we don’t know the full story to that person

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Thank you for sharing and being honest. I think this is completely normal and I have also muted or unfollowed. We have to pay attention how certain people or things make us feel and react accordingly. Of course you can also explore why it makes you sad.

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I personally deleted social media a week ago because I found myself comparing myself to others and putting myself down. I kept saying “I’ve worked so hard my whole life and I have nothing to show for,” which is entirely untrue, but it’s easy to say that when you see people on Instagram getting engaged, buying houses, having babies, etc. But the truth of the matter is that if they looked at me, they’d probably think my life was pretty grand. Just know that this time of year is really hard and you’re not alone. I’m sure you’re doing just great💛

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If you’re unfollowing people on social media bc of jealousy, you shouldn’t be on social media. You should be working on yourself and finding inner love and peace so you never have the need/desire to compare.

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You never know how happy she really is vs what she posts on social media. Reality can be very different to the lives people post online!

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I have done this! My roommate post college seemed just so perfect and I was never cool enough for her. She’s actually kinda big on Instagram now. I wasn’t the best roommate either and was going through shit. When I found her on Instagram I actually DMed her to apologize. She never responded and this was something that happened 8 years ago! I had to unfollow her after that… but I still can’t stand that everyone loves her and she is so famous now. But I don’t think about it often. People can suck. People on social media are performing. Focus on you.

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I have also deleted / removed friends on Facebook because I felt resentment and negative feelings when I saw their posts. I didn’t want that for myself & I feel better.

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I’ve muted like 30 people with babies. I have anxiety about my fertility prospects (part actual reproductive medical stuff, part me having lifelong anxiety that landed on this issue) At first I felt bad for muting them but hey, it’s your feed, you have every right to control what you see. If you’re seeing her content and feeling distressed, I say give yourself the gift of staying calm and focused on you. I see people saying you shouldn’t be on social media if you “can’t deal” but I think that’s a personal choice. If you enjoy all your other friends, creative content, and creepy perfect targeted ads, you can keep them. That said, I quit social media 2nd year of b school and loved the relative quiet.

TLDR: go for it, curate that feed.

Also I promise you’re doing great at life!

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