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Therapists talk about being okay to do things for yourself, take time when needed etc..I find it hard to balance this with the guilt of being selfish, especially around family. How do you handle this? I don't know if it's an Asian culture thing but I always try and be the least inconvenience and try to make others happy..

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At least you’re aware of the issue and have reached out for help. Definitely something you need to do!

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Grinding is a ladder. Many who try to climb it fail and make minimal wage forever. The PIP breaks them. And some, are given a chance to bill clients again. They refuse, they cling to the 9-5 or dead end terminal level job or a paycheck. Illusions. Only the grinding is real. The climb is all there is.

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U ok dude?

It’s definitely Asian culture thing, so many of us are constantly anxious. The only time we feel better is when we grind harder for the sake of grinding harder, sign

Sadly so true

I'm Anglo-american and face this.

I feel like this too. I was raised to believe nothing i did was ever enough and that to be a good person i should give ip my wants and needs for others. Im not Asian btw.

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