There is a partner in our office that routinely discusses associate performance with other associates. For example, she will tell Associate A that Associate B isn’t performing and/or hitting hours, etc. Recently, I learned that she has been discussing “issues” she had with my work product two years ago (I no longer do any work for her). Is this something I should bring up? It bothers me that she is talking about me to others.

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I worked with a partner like this. It was mind boggling. Like you must know that I like my peers better than I like you right? And that we talk to each other and we will not want to work with you if you keep shitting on everyone?

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Office gossip unfortunately will never go away. It sucks particularly bad when it’s someone who should be in a mentoring type role. If you aren’t working for her anymore, the quality of your work will matter more. I highly recommend staying away from her, but if you have to work with her try to keep everything over email.

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Agree with A2 that people will disregard what she has to say since this is well known behavior.

Also I’d worry that confronting her will only give her more fuel to talk shit.

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A4, my experience with ppl like this is not that they are gossips but literally get off on talking shit about peoples performance so they can feel superior. If they do it about everyone people know it’s mostly bs

That’s so hard, I’ve been there and I’m sorry you’re experiencing it. I’d agree with Attorney 1. Knowing that gossips love to gossip, understand that she’s probs a known commodity and the smart people have learned to take what she says with a grain of salt and/or ignore her. Don’t work with her, and in the event you must, document. You got this!!

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Apparently in the minority but I absolutely would ask her about it. I’d prob frame it as asking because of the “learning opportunity,” but really with the aim of shaming her a bit for talking about it. Something like “Hi, X. I’m reaching out because I was surprised to hear that you were unsatisfied with my work on Matter, and I’d love to learn more about how I can do better!”

IMO, it’s possible she’s gossiping so much with the assumption the associates are too afraid of getting on her bad side to tell each other. If she finds out that’s not the case, she might think twice sometimes. And, just because someone’s a gossip doesn’t mean what they’re saying is *false*, so I think she is still damaging your reputation even if people know she’s a gossip.

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Ask HR what firm policy is & let them address it more globally. You do not want to be the target of a partner’s ire.

Getting HR involved with a partner issue is a surefire way to stoke ire.

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