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I would struggle to date a person with no drive. And that means in any aspect of life. I can’t deal with laziness/sitting around in free time. I can’t deal with lack of career aspiration. Etc. I was very fortunate to find someone similar or it wouldn’t have worked.
Rising Star
Fining someone similarly motivated is hard, so you need to find dates in suitable places to improve your odds. I solved that my marrying someone I met during business school, because it was a pool of similarly driven, successful people.
I'd date the waiter for fun, but wouldn't consider them a great long term partner without more information.
Pro
I wouldn't want to date someone who's motivated in the same way I am. My fiancee has a good job in a related field but works for the gov't and has reasonable hours, it's a nice counterweight.
Likewise, my ex was a personal trainer. I guess many people here would say she wasn't ambitious but she was just motivated in a different way, and it was refreshing.
I would be totally fine being with a girl that wasn't ambitious at work, just as long as she had something that she was really into and motivated by.
I'm dating someone as motivated, only in another field entirely (wouldn't want to touch consulting or anything quant with a bargepole -- opposites attract after all).
I don't think I could be attracted to someone I didn't respect, admire, and find inspiring at some level. You don't want to find yourself feeling not understood, nor is it fair to the other person to be expected to ramp up. Not everyone has drive or wants to!
Agree with WU1, but would also note that it can be difficult to balance priorities with two very driven people. Something I’ve been struggling with lately is the amount of sacrifice actually required to “take turns” with whose career is more important.
No I would not date someone who doesn't have drive doesn't have power and doesn't work or put in the hours... But all joking aside I also couldn't stand being with a perfectionist workaholic that's wrapped up into grind culture. Nothing sexy about being lazy and nothing sexy about working yourself into an early grave. Balance is key.