This girl is really cute but poor... would you have a serious relationship with a waitress?

I actually see why your concern is. It could become an issue, e.g., if she thinks you are throwing money in her face. Was in a similar boat. I was cautious at first because I thought she just wanted to date a dude with spending money. Turned out she was always trying hard to fit in with my lifestyle. We dated for 6 or 7 months, it was fun but we broke it off because we just had different career goals. There were some awkward moments but we both were open and willing to work through them. I learned a lot about NYC dating her though, there is a lot we miss out on when we travel/expense/buy conveniences for a living.

Aside what others have already mentioned, I consider their families too. Are they a bailout waiting to happen (liability) or a strong cornerstone? Bailing that degenerate little brother out of jail and paying legal fees and stuff like that could cause relationship issues down the road. Examples like this are why I look not only at them and their goals and ambitions. Before I get any hate for this... my reason for thinking this way is so that I can preserve family money and put it good use on the future generation(s) of spoiled brats I might spawn someday.

Based on the title of your post alone, she deserves better than you.

I was that girl a few years ago and felt i was not good enough for men i was interested in. But you never know what she might turn out unless you find out her life goals.

Poor is a relative term. You're poor compared to a lot of people on this app I bet.

No. I only date people that make 8 figures.

An SC at Ey thrash talking an hard working waitress oh the irony

I was a waiter and my wife worked for Deloitte (still does)....don't be a dick

Ugh. Go look in the mirror and slap your self.

... that shouldn't matter if she's a great person

Date her and get a sense of where she is going. I sold shoes. My wife sold shoes.

I am now a SM, my wife is the best possible mother to my children. After kids are a bit older, she is jumping back into the working pool.

You need to look at all of the virtues of her as a partner in your life. She may be bad for other reasons, but being a waitress is not one of them.

You don't know what she does when she isn't waitressing. She could be doing something else on the side and only doing this job so she can pay bills in the meantime. She could also be in school. so judge not. If she's not your cup of tea then let it go

I think if OP had phrased this post a little differently, then it would have gotten less negative feedback. Plus OP how do you know she's poor, did she explicitly tell you this?

I'd be more concerned that I'm too lame for her

P1 it is a legitimate question. Massive differences in starting familiar wealth or income causes additional issues to a relationship.

Wtf? Are you hoping she'll sponsor your life?

I mean Mat Damon married a waitress and he is worth a shit load more than you.. so there you go!

From personal experience I can tell you she knows how to work hard. Always a virtue I've admired. Love transcends what's in your bank account.

Money is like the dirt of your hand my friend, it comes and it goes. Don't ever make it anything more than that. Best advice I was ever told

Poor ? Lol. You're so lame (read immature)

My friend as a bartender and waiter pulls in way more than I do after taxes per month...

Thanks D4. Got really bashed around here which is understandable. Obviously I really like this person but it sucks that only I pay for things and she is uncomfortable about herself and her career.