This is dumb but I feel like I work really hard to get to where I want to be so I don’t like helping others too much cause I almost feel like they’re mooching off my hard work without doing anything for themselves. How do I get over this?

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Actively fight it by helping others and then learn to appreciate the joy of seeing others succeed, knowing you did that, and recognizing it’s not at a detriment to your own success

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I trained a junior resource and mentored him. He got customer appreciations and promotions and customer ignored my contribution. Worse project of my life

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Go live off the land in a remote country by yourself

You won’t want a dog because they will beg you for food

You won’t want a job because they are all like this

Perhaps no relationship as well i would imagine

So I would travel the world and forage

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Helping people can help you progress too

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Forget karma. Someone has always helped you, visible or not. Our world is too connected for the 'lone wolf' concept to actually work

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Help others with what, exactly? Financially? Professionally? Emotionally? Academically?

Regardless, it sounds like you might be under the impression that you got to your current stage in life entirely on your own, which is untrue 99.9% of the time. Maybe start practicing gratitude and reflecting upon how you have benefitted from others in your life and learn that paying that forward is how most people succeed in life. Otherwise, most of your relationships will end up pretty meaningless if you can't stand to be there or make sacrifices for those around you.

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Start doing the opposite? 🤷🏻‍♂️

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Be practical. What’s that overused African proverb again?

If you want to go fast, go alone. But if you want to go far, go together.

You want people on your side. In fact, only way senior managers and above can perform in a firm is if they have a team they can rely upon and mobilize to get the job done. These things don’t just get handed to you, or if they do, you certainly won’t get credit for the work.

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Where do you want to go? Manager? Partner? Regardless, you need to bring your team up with you, this is where you start.

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first of all, i’m happy for your success. it’s great to work your ass off and finally be in a position where others look up to you and aspire to be where you are.

the thing is, nobody does it alone. you have your family, your friends, the people that took time to vouch for you or answer your dumb questions, your stupid dog or cat for being there. and even if you did somehow do it alone, the act of helping others does not diminish your own achievements. it’s the opposite.

it could just be that you haven’t seen someone with a similar grind to you coming up yet. one day you will, and you may surprise yourself by how invested you get in helping them - as you were once helped, too.

obligatory cheesy arnold video on the topic: https://m.youtube.com/shorts/FEHFDZW5kUI

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If you’re not willing and able to help people around you you slow down your team and yourself

Karma is real, what you put put in the world comes back to you and if your selfish and don’t help people and withhold information it will do you no favors

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Gratitude. Look it up. You’re gonna hit points in your career where this won’t be the case.

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Help others but make sure you make it known to the people who matter..I'm kinda trying this out myself

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At the end of the day you really can’t take whatever you’ve earned from this hard work to the grave. Learn to share/give!

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Read Give and Take book. It might change your perspective. It is important to give back

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Your thinking is backwards here. It’s not about doing hard work, it’s about helping others so they vouch for you to management. This positions you well and is more beneficial to your career than “hard work”. It’s about positioning

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I guess it depends on the individual asking for help. The ones I call “teflon” are the ones who just deflect everything and don’t want to work hard - they can figure it out on their own. There are others who just don’t know how to do something, but once taught will be heads down. It’s learning more about personalities and picking and choosing who you help.

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I agree with you this is dumb

Part of the shift from individual contributor to leadership is recognizing that leaders rely on their teams to move forward, and if teammates are supported and appreciated, that forward movement is easier and quicker. The sooner you can put aside the part of your ego that is making it a competition rather than a collaboration, the better it will be for your career.

Granted, there are some people in leadership who DON’T abide by this, but those are the people most likely to end up having a lot of people who can’t stand them/leave their team/complain about them on fishbowl.

Grow up is my advice

A question I have for you is, why do you think things have to be difficult for others?

Another I have is, did anyone help you get to where you are? At all? Did anyone take the time to review your resume or run a practice case with you or give you feedback on a deliverable?

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