This is for all the female attorneys who have been labeled a b*tch or emotionally or aggressive. You must be killing it!

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I was once called a “snake” by opposing counsel, during a deposition. It made me feel like I was doing a great job AND it was on the record.

Hiss hiss. 🐍

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“Insubordinate” and never felt so honored in my life.

I’ll be damned if I ever succumb to whatever “obedience” a partner expects. Following instructions is one thing. Making suggestions to avoid hurting a client is another.

*and for those of you who think standing up to a partner is scary, you won’t regret is once you start getting the respect you deserve in return*

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Being completely honest here - this is why I started getting botox after I became a people manager. All my life I was perceived as a "nice" person but when I became a leader suddenly I was told I seemed "angry." I assumed it was because I was aging and getting something of an resting bitch face *botox to the resuce*. I wonder how much of my teams perception was based on the simple fact that I was a woman leader.

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💯.

Betta believe it.

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I had a partner preface a sentence with “since youre so emotional.....” if I could have turned into Linda Blair.....the neck turn....how do you respond to that?

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AA2. The partner is the one driving the car and the associate is in the passenger seat so the associate can get out and gas the car as needed. If the partner is driving in the ditch, you have to tell him for the client and the firm.

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Yes, ma’am, I am. Especially when I call myself that.

(I did take it as a compliment when my ex-husband told me I’m a black belt in “verbal jiu-jitsu”. Don’t say dumb or hurtful things and I won’t have to flip it back on you. Don’t know what to tell ya, buddy.)

uplifting

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.cosmopolitan.com/career/amp8982047/sexism-at-work-female-emotional-stereotypes/

*emotional*

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