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How many earphones do you’ve? I have around 6.
You should work on that.
Good for you making the choice to invest in your mental well being :)!
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The level of insecurity … wow. I’m not trying to be critical. It’s just always disheartening to see how common insecurity is among women. I know it’s societal, cultural, engrained for years. Love to hear that OP is in therapy. I hope it helps. In the past, therapy has been life changing for me.
There are things things you can do to become more confident, with yourself and in your relationships. It starts with loving yourself.
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I also feel like part of overcoming the insecurity is letting go of control. You can’t really prevent it, so why stress about it. We can only control so much — how we act, how we behave, how we treat them, how we prioritize our partners and intimacy and quality time. How we prioritize ourselves and our happiness (can’t be happy with someone if you’re not happy with yourself). Anything that’s not in your control … well let the chips fall where they may.
What’s the worst that can happen? He cheats? Okay and… If you knew you did your best, you did what you could to be a good partner and build a good relationship, then you did all you could and he really doesn’t even deserve you.
Also, cheating isn’t always the end of a marriage. Though I think for me it might be.
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You need to work on your insecurities and figure out why do you feel that way. This is not healthy for your relationship/mental health.
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Lol yeah I kinda get it but you should be happy he works with (presumably) intelligent women!
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You should go to the office with him…make sure he stays in his cubicle 😏
Saying you’re in therapy it’s all good doesn’t mean a thing. You say you’re in therapy but then say you want to light a girl’s hair on fire for him asking how her weekend was? Jesus Christ. You obviously don’t trust him, why are you still with him?
Lol probably against what everyone else is telling you. I think it's normal to feel this way when another woman's presence in your man's life bothers you. If it's a professional relationship and all conversations are about work then it's okay. But I don't see a good reason for conversations to derail into personal life.
All of that, given the fact that your man is faithful and would not cheat on you
VP1 completely agreed. So glad my wife has some amount of self confidence so I don't have to worry any time I get staffed with somebody of the opposite sex.
The sexism in this thread is wild. So if I only connect with my male colleagues / direct reports that's ok because I should never devolve into personal connection with a female colleague?
Imagine if male coworkers were only socializing with the same sex and precluding women from anything other than "work-specific" conversations. Seems like a discriminatory work environment.
On the other side of the equation and curious to hear your thoughts OP - a partner I work with (opposite gender from me) regularly makes fun of me in good spirit and I definitely make fun of this person back. The team is going to an event and s/o’s are invited. If you were this person’s s/o and you see the banter play out in real life - how would you feel? Obviously I don’t want to burn any bridges here and definitely want to be empathetic. There is no romantic connection between me and my boss, but interested to see where you’re coming from.