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This is my first busy season living with my BF, (we also started dating right after busy season last year lol and let’s save the talk about moving to fast). Anyone have any advice how to split the house chores/meals? My work hours will hit 70-90 hours a week but I still want to be mindful of him. His actual work week is probably 30 hours at best so I feel like it can’t possibly be split 50/50

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Get a cleaning person. Best money ever spent. Cuts down a lot of pressure of who’s to do what and huge time saver. Then just set expectations that you’re in survival mode so other person will have to step up, but then outside of busy season do more to make up for it. Lastly, make together time about quality not quantity. I still like to do a home cooked nice meal Sundays if I can find the time. Good luck!

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He cooks most weeknights during season and keeps the house “picked up”. On sundays I dust/sweep/mop and he does the yard and we both do laundry. He usually encourages me to nap if possible. I usually do the grocery shopping except for the week of deadline when it’s a free for all and I am just trying to survive.

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I agree with those above. Bf does most of the cooking while I'm working. I try to clean/wipe/dust stuff down as we go along or it'll bug me. We don't really have designated days meant for chores unless it's deep cleaning every few months. Aside from that, thankfully we have a dishwasher which I only need to load once a week and he does laundry every week regardless. We also have a roomba and it's definitely worth it for us.

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During busy season, my husband takes on the heavy lifting with cooking, laundry, etc. I hire a cleaner that comes in every other week which really helps. Then when I am not busy and my husband gets busy, we trade off where I take more of the heavy lift with the housework. I’ve found that it works well between us as long as we are both honest with each other about how busy we are going to be in a given period and don’t judge how well (or poorly) the person taking the heavy lift on the house performs (i.e. don’t get judgey or mad that he doesn’t do stuff the way you would do it).

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Hire a house cleaner that does laundry! I made that move a couple years back and it was a life changer. It’s also not as expensive as you may think.

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During busy season my husband probably does more around the house. He cooks all the meals and does the grocery shopping. Some cleaning (with pestering) I do the laundry, as hell ruin my clothes and it’s relaxing to me! If he doesn’t make most of the food he might not eat with your schedule! 😂 so things like that he’ll probably have to pick up more on. Or your guys meal prep the week together like on Sundays or something. Make it a joint activity

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Busy season, partner does 80 to 90 pct of the house work and I do most during the summer. We also have a cleaner that comes once a week.

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Been there, no judgement, but if anything it slows down the relationship instead of moving faster. Husband does all the grocery shopping, we meal prep & freeze food on Sundays for the week. Roomba is a good investment!

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I set the expectation that my husband is 100% on his own for meals, exception potentially being dinner on the weekends. As far as cleaning, I take the stance of... I'm never at home, so I'm not creating any of the mess besides laundry. So I'll do laundry on sundays, but other than that he's on his own mostly. I'll do chores/dishes if I feel up to it (mostly just to be nice), but he's a grown man who can look after himself for a little while. We don't have any kids, so don't have that to worry about. I usually take care of the dog in the mornings, and husband handles the evenings. I can't even imagine doing busy season wfh.... because that would change the dynamic a lot...

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Both of you should read (and get cleaning / food service option during busy season): Spousonomics: Using Economics to Master Love, Marriage, and Dirty Dishes

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He should do the majority of house chores and meal prep. Whenever you’re less busy and he’s more busy, switch roles.

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