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This is the most basic question, so yep, I’m asking you to take it easy on me when you reply. I have been practicing for about 5 years total. I have been in civil practice for 2 years. These 2 years have been the most demoralizing, unfulfilling 2 years of my life. I have been giving myself pep talks to find the “positive” spin on it but firm life isn’t for me. I know networking is key but do you have some thoughts/suggestions on how to make an exit...crying at therapy is becoming too much.

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Maybe it isn’t that firm life is not for you but that particular firm is not for you. I worked at three firms before I opened my own and none of them resembled the others. If an exit is necessary, be gracious, be poised, and be direct. Good luck!

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I’m sorry this has been your experience and There are many of us that are here to encourage you and help you think through your options. The first thing to recognize is that you have options. The next thing to recognize is that the legal profession is broad and I have seen many women in your situation find a fulfilling area and become happy again with their practice. Your post shows clearly that you are unhappy with your current practice. That’s ok. Many of us have been there. We understand. If you could choose the ideal practice, what would it be? Transactional? Corporate? Tax. ? IP etc? Then do you want to transition to in house? Government? Different law firm? Your own firm? Non-profit? Is there an area or subject matter in the law or business or society that you are passionate about? What part of the country are you living? We may be able to guide you to a positive strong mentor in your area. Share a little more about what you want.

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How beautiful it is to have a servants heart. With that comes the balancing act between how to make sure you are taken care of as well. I can appreciate your search for fulfillment. One way to approach finding that in my experience is not just to look external for alternative practice areas but to go deeper with exploration from within.

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Being clear that firm life isn’t for you is a positive realization. Getting clear on what you really want is the first step toward moving forward in a direction that is right for you. You know what is unfulfilling so think what is fulfillment for you. That is your first clue as to which direction to head.

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After 5 years at a firm, I switched to an in-house position at a specialty insurance carrier. It was a great switch for me as far as work-life balance and also work enjoyment. My company frequently hires attorneys with 3-5 years of litigation experience in the specific line of insurance (employment, construction, med Mal, cyber). Moving to an insurance company may, however, involve a pay cut.

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You heart and mind are in sync. You are struggling with what you want and what you have, security in a firm and a job you do not enjoy versus what you wish to do. Start planning your exit and research what you could do to establish a little, humble but sharp boutique front store office doing what calls your heart. Save, ask about permits, costs, licenses... start small, it will grow! Entrepreneurship we called it. The end of the month paycheck may not be the same at first, but if you put your passion into it, you can have a rewarding, steady job. Every large firm started this same way anyway.... research, plan, save, do. And look to God, maybe you’ve drifted away a bit and he can help you! Mind, body and soul. Blessings.

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If you haven’t done this already, sit down and try to figure out exactly what you like and what you hate about your present situation. This is a very important exercise because you need to know specifically what works and doesn’t work for you. Is it the practice of law in general? The area of practice you’re in? The people you work with? The clients and their expectations? Once you have a handle on this, you can start planning your next steps. But if you don’t do this analysis, you may find yourself in a different place, but just as unhappy.

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What type of firm and practice area are you in?

Are you sleeping, eating well, getting up same time every day, exercising, and curtailing drinking habits? That’s square one.

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I’m in the same situation you’ve described. I’m not quite sure what advice to provide, but I just wanted to drop a note of encouragement to let you know that you’re not alone! I wish you all the best and hope you can find a way out sooner rather than later, and that the next place is somewhere you really enjoy.

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Same! Also struggling with how to make the move from civil litigation, which I hate, to something else that I have no experience in. I’m almost a third year and don’t want to get pigeon-holed into this area!

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That’s great advice. Thank you!! Update: received a message from an associate at a firm specializing in the practice area I’ve been interested in since law school and they’re hiring. Learning more this week!

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