This time last year I knew I needed to stop drinking, but I couldn’t. This year, though, I’m putting my health first. Starting day 2 of sobriety and hope to keep it up. Thanks to this group for all the support and encouragement shown to those of us struggling with such powerful addictions.

How much money do you keep in your emergency fund? I’m debating between $36,000 - $72,000. I live in a low cost-of-living city, our monthly mortgage plus insurance and taxes is roughly $1,500, and we try to keep our food expenses to under $1,000 a month. No law school loans to pay off.

Any recommendations for moisturizers with spf? Need something that holds up well throughout day and is sweat resistant! Preference to drugstore brands!

Have an unexpected interview with the VP of Revenue Cycle at Dignity Health tomorrow. Any interview tips?! Excited and nervous over here!

I still constantly think about my 1st serious relationship from about 14 years back. I think about her everyday and fantasize about she reaching out and us getting back. We have not had any contact for the past 7 years, post break up contact was limited to once a year birthday wishes.

I have tried therapy and they asked me to do some forgiveness work, which has helped in other aspects but not this. I genuinely think this is exactly what addiction is. Plz. help folks, how can I get over this?

I’ve come across a lot of conflicting advice on fasting - is it effective for weight loss or general health or does it slow down metabolism, I’m confused. I’m the kind of person that is almost always hungry. Anyone cracked the code here willing to share your in insights/experience?

Is anyone else completely grossed out by people you know treating the pandemic so lightly? I saw a group of people I know having an indoor party and don’t think I can stomach being friends.

feeling overwhelmed in all aspects of my life and it’s affecting my ability to perform at my normal level. It’s disappointing bc I feel like this isn’t me but idk how to change it. Hard to care too.

Anyone recommend VIB or ETN?

What are the stereotypes/misconceptions you heard about having ADHD before you were diagnosed, and are any of them true for you? Kind of trying to wrap my head around my diagnosis

Who else feels like we are currently living through a long episode of Black Mirror with COVID and all the craziness going on?

Who decided COVID was no longer a thing we need to think about and discuss and on what basis? Is everyone okay with the way it just disappeared from this bowl and news in general?

Where can I learn to move patients in bed and in their rooms without getting hurt?

I want take a couple days off for my mental health, which is the worst it’s been in a long time. How do I go about it? I already took a few sick days in the past few months. TIA

Blue shield of CA fired 375 people. Any other insurance companies having massive layoffs?

Anyone have some pregnancy safe healthy lunch recommendations?

Any 🐠 🐟 do calisthenics or body weight exercises? Couldn’t find a “tribe” in NYC

What new health habits and interests have you formed during quarantine? I’ve started cooking more, doing more body weight exercises (vs. previously lots of cardio), and trying to meditate. Looking for other ideas!

Hi,

I completed a technical test for health research analysts position at a consulting firm that included statistical analysis of health data in R studio. Now I have been called for an in person interview. I am not sure what to expect in this interview and what aspects I should prepare for. If anyone can weigh in on that, I would appreciate it

Does anyone have a good way of managing customer profiles? Working in logistics I speak with a lot of different customers, carriers, warehouses, brokers, etc and I am looking for a way to organize the notes I have for each one that I can filter through. My company most likely won’t purchase new software but we do have basic Microsoft programs. TIA !

AVIS car broke down and it's a damn Chevy impala. I have been sitting in the parking lot for the past 2 hours ...

Quarantine has me and my partner having unique convos lol. Is it a dated construct for a women to take the man’s last name in marriage??

Is it fine to take a 1-2 week vacation shortly before potentially giving two weeks notice shortly afterwards, if I might get an offer soon? Feel like it’s fair but curious to hear what people think.

Is there already a good chance of getting admitted upon receiving an invite to interview (Ross, Michigan)?

How is Verlinvest (in Europe)? Prestige, lifestyle, fund performance, culture, etc

Hey

Male here,

Anyone up for weekend catchup and drive ...female preferred ;)

Are there any good churches in Silicon Valley? Thank you

I want to know if anyone else feels like I do: I’ve been on 3 projects (1.5 years) and don’t feel “liked” or valued. I try to authentically connect with others and do my best work on every project team, but nothing seems to work. Even more frustrating are consistently subpar performance reviews, which make me doubt myself and my intelligence/worth. I feel absolutely useless here and can’t operate from a deficit. It’s like I’m like a fish trying to be a bird. Please help, what should I do?

Has anyone left a perm opportunity to join Meta in a contract role?

How was the experience? Did you regret it?

I got offer from Accenture and it is of 8.5 fixed and 1.8 variable (21%), I am 2.5 + yoe in Capgemini is this offer is good or I should negotiate

What is the going rate for a med surgical nurse in New Jersey full time, not contract?

Empower retirement or Atos-Syntel? For job security and hikes?

I know WLB depends on project.🙂

What should be a good salary for a 12+yr experinced telecom engineer in india

I found out a soon to be 2nd year associate got a 10k raise making his salary 110k now, while I, the soon to be 3rd year associate got a 2k raise making my salary 107k. So now the 2nd year male associate is making more money than me. How do I bring this up to the partners?

Hi all,

Could you please let me know how many rounds does wipro take for interview.

Else they take client interview directly

Hello Fishes - My i140 is approved with old employer who no longer exist. My existing employer is now trying to file my new i140 with old priority date. Will there be any issue in getting i40 approved with existing employer?

My sister is turning 30 in rehab this week, and I want to send her a birthday gift that she'll appreciate, but also that might be helpful to her as she transitions into a new sober life.

Any recommendations?

If I want to go to an AA meeting do I just show up? What happens my first time? Do I have to quit drinking before I go to one/ be committed to quitting before going? How many people are at these? Is there a time/day of week that is best to go? How often do people in AA have to go to meetings? Does it cost anything once you join? I just can’t shake the feeling that my luck is going to run out. Not a daily drinker, but blackout when I do. Thx.

Best AA meetings in NYC??

What does everyone do for support while traveling? 12 Step meetings aren’t always easily available in some locales or time slots. How do you stay grounded, focused, and centered?

“Like” this post if this has been a tough week for you too...help me feel not so alone.

Any DFW folks here? Need to freshen up my meeting routine.

I have been alcohol free for 2 months but I use MMJ to focus. My dr prescribed MMJ because I don’t want pharma drugs like Adderall. Is there a place for me in AA or is it all (sobriety) or nothing?

Any tips for staying sober doing this job? I’m a new analyst, and I’m already feeling the pressure to drink. There’s no way that I’d have this job if I didn’t get sober and I’m just trying to cont

Walked back from the liquor store between calls in tears because I can’t control myself anymore. Am doing an intake meeting with a Intensive Out Patient care provider next week. Will be doing therapy from 5:30p-8:30p like three times a week for two weeks. How do I tell my team that I’ll have hard stops for these sessions? I don’t feel comfortable sharing my alcoholism with them

I’m over a month sober from alcohol. I’m not in a program or anything and I’m just keeping myself busy. It’s been hard some days especially being young and single. But I’m doing what I can and improving myself slowly

In early recovery and have to go away for conferences but don’t want to put myself in such a triggering environment. Should I go to support my career or pull out to not put myself in that situation? Anyone deal with the same and how did you do it?

I’ve found online AA meetings, but I’m struggling with drug cravings. Anyone know of online NA meetings? thanks!

I've struggled with excess for as long as alcohol has been a part of my life. I'm at a low point after having too much on Sunday, being unproductive on Monday, and barely sleeping. It's this moment that makes me want to finally change. But I know when I'm feeling better, I'll think I can do this all again and next time it'll be fine. I've read tips here for being better and will try my hardest. Tia for listening.

I recently tried quitting everything last Sunday, with drew all last week and then relapsed Friday, Saturday and Sunday worst withdrawals I ever had (cold sweats, shaking, wasn’t sure I would survive). I’m through the worst of it now but any advice? Thought about rehab but can’t stop work. This is probably my 9th time trying to go sober during the pandemic. I live alone so the isolation with the pandemic has extremely escalated my usage to the point of about a bottle of a day on weekdays