Those who find happiness intrinsically, how do you do it? I’ve always sought things and people to be happy. I’ve been less happy after college and the pandemic doesn’t help. Growing up, our family constantly moved (3 continents, 4 countries) and it was always difficult to make friends. I can’t complain to people about this because then I sound like the privileged prick who gets to travel and lives a arguably good life. Sorry for the rant 😔

I teach PreK in a public school. Our state allows PreK programs to nap without masks if proper ventilation is provided. I have 16 children, a minimum of 3 feet apart, no masks, with two LOUD air filters, two tiny windows open, the outside and hall door open, at average in 72-76 degrees. What is your childcare classroom doing for rest time?

Happy Veterans Day to all who have served, to all who are serving and their families. There is no greater sacrifice in that of serving your country. God bless the men and women of the United States military #GodAndCountry.

I have unused travel credit with United accrued from work trip cancellations that’s expiring soon. Can I used it for personal travel ?

If you had to fly out to SF from NY for a client meeting, do you bill for the travel time or do you just eat the 12 hours?

A friend of mine was arrested last night over a DUI charge and his family is worried sick. How can I help comfort them...

Bella grace residence inn or renaissance Charleston? Titanium Marriott member. Breakfast good at either? Won’t have a car so looking to stay near everything to do in Charleston. TIA

Hi all! I currently live in LA but my wedding next year will be in my hometown of Chicago. I plan to go wedding dress shopping soon in both LA and Chicago. If I find my dream wedding dress in Chicago, I’d like to order it to be shipped to a store in LA so that I can have my fittings throughout the year without having to travel back to Chicago. However this also means I would have to fly to Chicago with my wedding dress. Has anyone been in this situation before? If so, how was the experience?

Folks, question on Canada PR. I got PPR today but I have travel plans in 2 weeks. Does anyone knows how long it takes for IRCC to return the passport?. Or can I request them to send the passport contd

Cousin reminded me that I can say the most righteous, fact or Bible-based message to another, but it’s a sounding gong / meaningless if I made them feel bad (was debating with a younger relative). So much truth to remember in our daily interactions with others. So much weight to practice from 1 Corinthians 13:1-2- If I speak in the tongues of men or angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. I

Anyone else feel like it’s impossible to explain our jobs to friends? I’ve been struggling with this for years and now my best friend is getting married, asking me to tentatively reserve numerous weekends for a shower and bachelorette that may or may not happen (I’m the MOH). Of course I’ll do my best to prioritize her plans but it makes me feel like a bad friend and mentally exhausted to always try to explain big law. (Disclaimer: I’m decent at drawing work life boundaries when possible)

I love watching my 3-year-old's engineering hacks... he wanted to pet the cat so he built a fort out of pillows and waited, now the cat's purring on his lap and they're both asleep

India travel - anyone had or heard of issues flying into New Delhi airport from outside India? Thanks

1st flight on the 1st of the year is delayed. Good job American, I don't know why I keep giving you chances! I is done.

I have zero friends and I am so lonely ..... no friends. No boyfriend. Nothing. I am 26 yrs old and all I do is work - come home and watch TV :/

Just got divorced after being separated for a year. Any suggestions for places to go and meet new folks?

Three female former remote colleagues invited my husband on a trip (no spouses). Husband agrees it's not appropriate but I think he’d consider going if said I was fine with it. All are in their 30s with spouses and same aged young kids. Am I selfishly depriving him of a trip with friends? What is “normal?” My perception of normal/acceptable in these types of situations is skewed after a rough prior relationship many years ago.

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Hi Fishes,

I have a offer from EY and I am scheduled to join in December in a location different than my current location. The offer doesn't mention the joining process. Should I be planning travel? Are the offices open and physical onboarding started or is it virtual onboarding? If anyone aware, please help me with this.

I have the Chase Rapid Reward card and gave 90k points saved up on Southwest over the years but I’ve stopped flying with them (haven’t flown in general due to pandemic). Is there a way to transfer these points to another airline, or even use them on hotel bookings? Any recommendations on how I can best redeem these points?

Contemplating going freelance in the next year or two but want to be somewhat aware of what I’d be jumping into. What are some pros and cons to the freelance life?

can we renegotiate offer before joining without counter offer?

will it consider?

What are the career opportunities in SDET after eoy 10-15 years?

Cold calling throughout pandemic. Thoughts? Tips? Creative ideas?

Do recruiters strategically tell you that they live in another time zone so they have lead time between tasks/calls? Is this a thing?

I'd appreciate any insight on working as a management-side employment attorney in Dallas, or the market for employment lawyers. Browsing LinkedIn and doesn't seem like very many available positions. Thanks!

Anyone have insight into Shearman & Sterling, Dallas?

Does anyone here have experience with Winstead? Outside of the firm’s practice areas, I don’t know much about the firm.

What do you wish you would’ve known/ told your younger self when you started out in law?

Anyone here who works at PWC Bahrain? Wanted to know if there is a possibility to get referred to Associate role in audit .Thanks in advance !

I have 5 years in insurance sales experience, how can I break into tech industry through customer Success?

Account side to sales? I’ve been toying with the idea of moving into a sales role from advertising, and wondering if any other account people have done this?

I have 5 years of experience in Java
Backend. I have offer from Paytm, Global
Logic, Epam System. All have almost
similar CTC. I want to know which one
will be better to join ?

What are your thoughts on working within the Finance Transformation space? I currently work in advisory and spent one year prior in auditing. It seems really cool, but I want to know if this would benefit me in the long run in my career.

Client told me to grab the problem by the pussy.

Anyone here a sales engineer or something similar?

Sub-letting my studio apartment in gold cost (Dearborn and Maple). Lease goes until September. Furnished or I can move my furniture out. Apartment was remodeled last summer.

If you could start your MBA degree over what would you do differently?

Any advice on handling severe depression and anxiety when going through close to 24/7 work? Our deployment is going to span close to 2 months and I have a lot of overnights and long hours coming up.

I really feel like I’ve been dealt a really bad hand in my life. It feels like no one gives me a chance. Whether it’s a job I know I’m qualified for, or someone I’m interested in. Even things that appear to be good at first end up sucking. I know I should be grateful for what I have and that so many others are less fortunate. But I still can’t help but think that for a person in my position, given the opportunities that I was given, I am just a complete failure and nowhere near what I could be.

I’m depressed. Nothing unique about my depression - I’m in big law, my career defines me, when I’m not working I can’t find the will to get off the couch, I’m sad or I’m numb…I know I’m the only one that can make a change to my life…I’m on antidepressants. Just extremely unmotivated and paralyzed. Self-help books are not for me, but I am curious - has anyone tried a guided depression/anxiety journal? Any recommendations if so? Or, if you have experienced the same, what steps did you take?

Probably know it’s time for a new job when I wake up every Monday with a sense of dread to go to work.

Do others get particularly sad/down around their birthday? I always feel undeserving of any appreciation I get

Hey folks. I know a lot of people want to post the suicide hotline and tell folks to get therapy and all of that, but if you have ever experienced suicidal ideation, my number one tip as someone who

Last December, my mom said I needed to check myself into a mental hospital. It was a deliberate attempt to hurt, she knew I was getting help and not at risk.

We've had little contact this year but I feel intense guilt about her not seeing her grandkid much. Im learning about our intergenerational trauma and how to set better boundaries. She continually violates them. She sends texts to say I'm "mean" and "ruining the holidays".

Does the guilt go away? Do you go no contact, kid included?

I really dislike what I do for a living. I know I will be changing jobs soon but it’ll still be in the same industry. I feel extremely hopeless when I begin to worry that I will be doing this for the next 30 years...I get nervous just thinking about wasting my life like this.

I’m giving my current project everything I’ve got. Significant effort and long hours, but I feel like I’m coming up short. Because of this I feel so burned out. Has anyone rolled of a project under these circumstances?

First day of new job outside of consulting... I'm nervous

Do you ever feel like you work hard, made the best choices you could, and still feel so behind?

Anyone gets migraine as soon as you start to work?

has anyone left this line of work and done some thing just totally different? I am currently unemployed unfortunately because I was laid off but I am wondering if continuing to do this work it’s just going to further my depression. I feel like part of my depression is the fact that I can’t hold a job but I’m also that family trauma and it’s just a lot. I’m considering becoming a waitress. Is this crazy?

Having hard time staying motivated. I’m 28 years old. Never had a gf. Have no friends. Hate my job. Feel like jumping out of my window or something. Honestly need advice or someone to talk to

-Had a death in the family and took some time off.
-while I was gone some shit hit the fan and the team had to cover for me
-client is pissed off that I was taking “pto” during hell week
(Contd)

I have a friend who has bi polar but isn’t seeing anyone for it. They I’m broke up with their SO 2 weeks ago and are having a public meltdown on social media. I’ve tried to talk to them about it and they brush it off, saying they are embracing the mania. Recently they posted a video with a gun online to a small group of close friends. What can I do here? I don’t know their family or friends. This is a former colleague I was close with.

aita for wanting respect in my workplace as a woman? i get it im a girl working in a shop with men… they are going to be disrespectful and rude cause that’s how they are. but am i a “bitch” for wanting respect from my peers when all I do is hold them to high respects and try to do all in my power to help them? even when I can’t?

I accidentally overshared information about having anxiety and trouble focusing with someone who is kind of important at the company and now I regret it. She never responded and probably forgot about it but my husband told me that I shouldn’t have done that and I shouldn’t share things like that with people at work unless you are really close with them and now I’m freaking out and crying because I’m scared she will remember that and tell my boss or other higher up people.

I have a relatively high salary compared to my peers. But i didn't get this salary because i was particularly good at school. It's because I can only do programming very well. But i always procrastinated on my school work and that hasn't changed in my career. It is really making me depressed because i can do the work, it's right in front of me, and there is a lot of pressure on me, but i just keep scrolling on social media. I don't get it.

My fellow 🐠 that take Zoloft:
Have you had better results taking it during the day or at night, and why? (Been on it for over a month now and can’t decide which option seems to help more, and my doctor said taking it during either time is fine.) Thank you SO MUCH!!!!