Thoughts on having baby in a separate nursery from day 1 compared to sleeping in the same room for 3-6 months? Pros/cons?

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We did it! It honestly worked great. We both slept better and one less transition is always good. Straight into the crib in their own room.

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For us, 100% prefer having the bassinet/crib in our room since the nightly wakeups were tormenting. Having the babies nearby to feed then put back down was much more bearable than walking down the hallway to another room.

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What worked for us (refined over the course of two babies):
-Put a comfy bed in the nursery… we have an ikea couch bed that is great for after the tiny baby phase
-Then we basically took turns on who slept in the nursery with the baby… that way one person got to stay in our master and get an actual nights sleep but meanwhile we were there with the baby for the (supposed) benefits of room sharing and to make it easier to respond

FWIW with our first we started with the bassinet in our master and it drove me insane… with our second she went straight to the nursery with the system described above and it was great. Plan to do that again with #3 due in the fall

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We put both our kids in their own room from day one. Room wasnt far but if need be one of us could watch the monitor with the volume low or off and the other could sleep. Was great.

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We’re considering starting with crib and having one of us sleep in that room since it also has a full sized bed. That way hopefully someone will be getting sleep instead of both of us getting woken up every time. Besides convenience of not having to walk to another room, are there safety or other to keep baby in the same room?

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And here, the table specifically https://www.basisonline.org.uk/hcp-room-sharing/

I planned on doing this but when I brought my babe home, I just couldn’t. I put him in the pack n play next to my bed and moved him to a crib in his own room at 7 weeks. He did sleep so much better when I moved him to his crib.

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We roomshared (bassinet and pack snd play) with my oldest until she was 4 months or so. It sucked. Baby sleep is often LOUD and grunty and active. I couldn’t sleep because I woke up to every little peep she made. I found it uncomfortable to breastfeed in bed and it woke my husband up. Then he’d just be sitting there awake, watching me feed.

Baby 2 went to the crib his first night home from the hospital and I slept in the nursery with him (him in the crib and me on the other side of the room. Not cosleeping- not my jam. Not judging if it works for you). Once he started giving me longer stretches at night, I’d sleep in the master until he woke up snd then I’d finish the night in his room.

Roomsharing slso means it’s hard to have any adult time in your bed 😂. Hard to get in the mood when the baby is right there snd you’re trying not to wake them up! I love being able to have our room back for just my husband and me. We use a monitor and can 100% hear baby anytime he needs us. It takes me 5 seconds to walk to his room.

Prefer separate so we both can get good sleep

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